Mom Who Died of Breast Cancer Penned Touching Letter -- Full of Laughs & Tears

Woman writing a letterDeath is a tough pill to swallow ... for anyone. When doctors diagnosed Heather McManamy with terminal breast cancer a couple of years ago, she fought her hardest to be with her husband, Jeff, and their 4-year-old daughter, Brianna. And although she recently passed away, Heather continues to live on through her writing -- including this posthumous letter that's gone viral.


"...Rather than dwelling on the tragic Terms of Endearment end of my story, laugh at the memories we made and the fun we had."

They say there's power in the pen, and my, was this mama a gladiator with her words. Not only did Heather write personal notes for her daughter Brianna to read as she grows up, but she also wrote a powerful message to her loved ones whom she would (physically) leave behind.

One request, however, that Heather did have is for people not to tell her 4-year-old she was in heaven, given the family isn't religious.

Whatever religion brings you comfort, I am happy that you have that. However, respect that we are not religious. Please, please, please do not tell Brianna that I am in heaven. In her mind, that means that I chose to be somewhere else and left her.

Hello all,I am posting this on behalf of the love of my life. These are her words. Much love to all. - Jeff...

Posted by Heather McManamy on Tuesday, December 15, 2015

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Heather was a woman who didn't lose her battle to a disease, but lived a life full of love and happiness.

And don’t say I lost to cancer. Because cancer may have taken almost everything from me, but it never took my love or my hope or my joy. It wasn’t a 'battle' it was just life, which is often brutally random and unfair, and that’s simply how it goes sometimes. I didn’t lose, dammit. The way I lived for years with cancer is something I consider a pretty big victory. Please remember that.

Reading Heather's letter definitely reveals a lot about her personality, and the type of woman she was. She seemed loving, grateful, and quite funny -- as much of the letter had a bit of humor to it. It always pains me when I hear stories about families facing something like this. And yet, Heather has found a way to live on: through her words.

I hope that with time, you can think of me and smile and laugh, because, holy shit did we have a breathtaking life. Go google Physicist’s Eulogy and know that it is a scientific fact I will always be with you both in some way. I know that if you just stop and look hard enough, I’ll be with there (in as non-creepy a way possible). You’re my world and I loved every second we had together more than words.

I don't know about you, but this makes me think about life, and how precious it is. We need to hold our loved ones a little tighter, and do whatever we can to restore peace.


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