Mom Who Kept Grandma's $5K Bar Mitzvah Gift from Son Forced to Pay Up

moneyGrandmas are known for spoiling their grandchildren -- but in the case of one Long Island student, the grandson didn't get to cash in on his grandma's generous bar mitzvah gift for almost eight years, and all because his own mother was keeping the $5,000 bar mitzvah gift promised to him!


Twenty-year-old Jordan Zeidman recently sued his mother for withholding the $5,000 his maternal grandmother, Rachel Steinfeld (better known as "Baba"), gave to his mother to hold for him at his bar mitzvah in 2007. According to court papers cited in the New York Post, Baba "was like, 'I have $5,000 for you. Just like I gave to your brother and sister,'" said Jordan. She also told him that she would give it to his mom to hold for him. 

Except Jordan's mom, Shirley Lynne Zeidman, never gave him the money. For years. Eventually, Jordan felt he had no other option but to sue. It's important to note here, however, that Jordan and his mom had a very strained relationship -- his parents divorced in 1997, and while his mom was given custody of Jordan and his two siblings, his father ended up raising the children due to a "number of events." His mom wasn't even invited to the aforementioned bar mitzvah, though she showed up anyway (with Baba). And if you're thinking this whole think stinks, you're not alone -- the judge agreed, and awarded Jordan the money, plus 9 percent interest for the last eight years and lawyers' fees (between $10,000 and $11,000 total). 

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According to Jordan's lawyer, Steven Cohn, the lawsuit was as much about family dysfunction as it was about money.

"In order for Jordan to get closure, he wanted to hold his mother accountable for taking his money, because she took a whole lot more from him than just that," he said. "He had a difficult time being in the same courtroom as her."

"I think this was Jordan’s way of letting his mother know he still exists and he still has anger," he added. "I honestly don’t think it was really about the money, only a byproduct of what he felt he needed to do for himself. I think for Jordan this verdict meant a lot."

No doubt, and I hope Jordan is able to move on from here. One of the most upsetting twists, in my opinion, is the fact that both Jordan's mom AND his Baba denied that any money was promised in court. Luckily, evidence prevailed in the form of a bank statement with a handwritten note in Shirley's handwriting:  "I owe Jordan $190 + $5,000 from Baba."

Guess he's getting that $190, too!


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