Couple Spends $100,000 to Make Sure Their Baby Is the 'Right' Gender

pregnant womanA mom and dad are getting a lot of attention in the news for spending $100,000 -- or rather, for the way in which they spent that money. Helicopter rides? Champagne? Jewelry? Nope: This hundred grand was all spent on guaranteeing that their third child would be a girl, via a series of expensive IVF procedures.


Rose Costa's two older children, 15-year-old Gabriel and 13-year-old Igor, were both boys, but Costa had her heart set on a "perfect" family that contained at least one daughter alongside her sons. To ensure that she would have a girl this time around, Costa went through multiple rounds of IVF with genetic testing done on the embryos. This testing, known as preimplantation genetic diagnosis, or PGD, can rule out genetic and chromosomal abnormalities such as Trisomy 18 or Tay-Sachs disease. But in Costa's case, it was also used to rule out male embryos.

To be honest, it doesn't entirely matter how this family has chosen to spend their money -- according to the original article, they're covering the costs by taking fewer family vacations per year (only one instead of three!) and doing fewer remodeling projects around the house. So my heart isn't exactly breaking for them. Sure, donating $100,000 to charity instead would have been nice, but that probably wasn't a likely alternative they were entertaining. Do I think it's a ridiculous way for someone to spend that much money? Yes. Is it any of my business? Not really.

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But the real question here isn't what any of us would have done with the Costas' $100K in our wallets, or whether we should be able to tell them how to spend it.

The real question is: Why do people still think in the year 2015 that a family isn't right or complete unless it has both sons and daughters in it? Why do people think that raising boys and girls has to be done so differently that having one or the other should be a completely different experience? And most importantly: What are people having sex-selective pregnancies going to do if those girls turn out to be sports-loving tomboys, or those boys turn out to like dolls and knitting?

Kids aren't collector sets where you need one of each kind to complete your collection. They're people, and the differences between any two individual girls or any two individual boys are greater than the differences between the two genders -- at least, as long as kids are given the freedom to grow up to be who they want to be, instead of who you want them to be.

Should sex-selective IVF be illegal?

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