School Form Asks Moms Intensely Personal Question: Would You Answer?

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A mom recently hit the roof when she spotted a reeeeeaaally awkward question on her 5-year-old's kindergarten forms: How was her baby born -- vaginally or by C-section?


Cara Paiuk was so baffled by this question, she called the school for an explanation. The head nurse replied that if a student was perceived to have some issue (like a learning disability), any complications during the delivery (like a C-section) could help them figure out what's going on.

In other words: They're just trying to help your kids.

Still, though, if that were the case, then weren't there a bunch of other questions a school should ask that would be way more relevant? For instance, what if the child were born prematurely? Or did anyone in the family suffer from a mental/physical ailment? Or, as Cara had pointed out, why don't they ask if a child is vegan so they can keep an eye out for vitamin deficiencies?

"We don’t like to ask questions about food," the nurse told her. "Parents are very sensitive to that." Er, but questions about moms' vaginas are fine and dandy?

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Having never received a decent explanation, Cara decided to boycott this health history form. And I don't blame her! All I can say is if I'd gotten this question on a school form for my daughter, I'd be miffed too -- and not just because I had a C-section. 

In my mind, schools asking how moms gave birth is unnecessary, intrusive, and disrespectful to moms. And hey, if schools are willing to skirt asking questions about, say, dietary habits or family health histories to avoid rubbing parents the wrong way, then they should do moms the same courtesy when it comes to how they gave birth.

While this question may have some relevance when you're at the doctor's office with a newborn, for a 5-year-old in kindergarten, you'd think most problems will have already been diagnosed through more conventional means -- like doctor checkups. To me, pinpointing kids' problems by how they were born sounds a bit like doing an evaluation with tea leaves, or tarot cards -- way too much of a stretch.

So until I hear evidence that this question can actually help schools help our kids, I also plan to pass on any school forms questioning how I gave birth. It's none of their business!

Would you answer a question on a school form about how you gave birth?


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