Mom Sleeps With Her Tween Sons Every Night But Dad's Not Invited

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Every night, Julie Darby co-sleeps with her tween boys -- Brayden, 10 and Kai, 9 -- while her husband sleeps alone in another room. Sound messed up? Well, hear her out first.


For starters, she swears her husband is fine with it. She has tried to get her boys to go to sleep on their own. But nothing worked, so she decided to put her son's happiness first and bunk down with them come bedtime. 

"We’ve heard it all," says the mom from Chesterfield, England. "We’re ‘spoiling them, we’ll make them too attached, we’ve made a rod for our own backs.’ Right from day one people were telling me I was doing everything wrong. But our happy, healthy sons are proof we’ve done what is right for our family.”

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As someone who often sleeps with my 4-year-old, I understand where this mom is coming from. I've tried sleeping separately from my daughter but she begs me to stay, so I usually cave rather than hear her cry it out (although I usually try to sneak out once she's asleep to get a late-night TV fix with my husband). All I say is as long as this mom is fine with it, and her boys and husband are fine with it, then what's the harm?

There was a point when I was questioning my decision, until my mother set me straight by saying, "your daughter will want nothing to do with you once she's a teenager, so soak it up while you can." So that's what I do.

Odds are, sooner or later all kids will want their own bed soon enough -- probably around 12 or 13. That's when this mom says she'll cut it off. Which isn't that long, when you think about it! So soak it up, mama. I'll probably be right there with you.

How do you feel about co-sleeping with kids? What age should it stop?


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