Mom Breastfeeds While Dad Eats Spaghetti on the Toilet -- What, You've Never Seen a Family Dine Before? (PHOTO)​​

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What mom hasn't entertained the unappetizing prospect of breastfeeding her baby in a public bathroom? That may explain why a funny photo taken by photographer Tamar Shugert has spread like wildfire across the Internet, and gotten plenty of flack -- even from pro-breastfeeding advocates!

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Tamar, a 28-year-old mom in Israel, breastfed both her 2- and 4-year-old boys. "I believe passionately that moms have a right to breastfeed wherever they want," she says. "In Israel we have something called chutzpah. There is no way in hell I'd breastfeed in a bathroom. I'm too stubborn. It's not gonna happen."

While she never felt pressured to hide in a restroom with her babies, plenty of her friends admitted they did. So Tamar decided to highlight what moms endure by comparing it to having lunch in the loo.

The caption to this photo reads: "If you are not willing to eat your lunch in the bathroom, then don't expect me to feed my kid there." Well said!

Tamar was not only the photographer for this pic, but the model. Her husband, Daniel, posed with the spaghetti. Both photos were taken in their own bathroom, then spliced together.

Tamar posted this photo on the Facebook page for 52 Frames, an online community of photographers sharing their work. Only it quickly spread beyond this small group. Pro-breastfeeding groups applauded the photo, at least at first. Only when Tamar made a seemingly innocent comment that she thinks moms should consider covering up while breastfeeding in public -- as she did with her two sons -- the pro-breastfeeders turned on her.

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"The 'uncovered' breastfeeders really took offense to that," she recalls. "Some pointed out that that breasts shouldn't be sexual. But in my mind, they are! I only want my husband seeing them. That's my choice, and I'm disappointed that I was attacked for that."

Eventually the Facebook comments turned so vicious she stopped reading them entirely. But the experience opened her eyes to the fact that some pro-breastfeeders could be just as intolerant as people who think moms should nurse in bathrooms.

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"Telling me to go breastfeed in a bathroom is an extreme one way," she points out. "But opening your shirt and whipping out your breast in front of someone trying to enjoy their spaghetti is another extreme. A good compromise is nursing covers, which give moms who breastfeed the very freedom they're after."

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Shugert hopes this photo -- as well as others she takes (like her "Da Vinci mom" pic above) -- convinces people that we all could become more tolerant and willing to compromise, whatever our stance.

"If we want to get to a place where we're all living in harmony, then everyone should be willing to give and take," she says.

How do you feel about breastfeeding in public?

 

Images via Tamar Shugert Photography

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