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As any mother of a teenage daughter (myself included) can tell you, adolescent girls spend a lot of time being angry at their (generally well-intentioned, doing-the-best-they-can-thank-you-very-much) moms. Chalk it up to hormones or the inherently conflicted nature of mother-daughter relationships or the influence of sassy celebs, it's just a seemingly unavoidable circumstance -- but knowing that doesn't necessarily make all the side-eye and door slamming any easier to deal with.

Take the mom who recently wrote in to Dear Abby about her 16-year-old daughter, "Sierra," who was "knocked up" by a family friend. The distraught mom's primary reason for writing wasn't to ask Abby for advice on whether or not she should press charges against her unborn grandchild's dad, an adult family friend Sierra was babysitting for when the affair began, but to find out how to get her daughter to "stop hating her" for making her end the relationship.

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Now, your first reaction to hearing about the mother/soon-to-be grandmother's chief concern might be something along the lines of What?! Who cares if the kid is mad at her mom, this sick predator needs to be locked up, and fast! And truthfully, I couldn't agree with you more. But I also understand this mom's frustration and despair over the fact that Sierra apparently "hates" her for involving the cops and ending the romance. There's nothing quite as exasperating as when your kid is furious with you over something you're doing for her own good, particularly when that kid is a teen.

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Sure, teens are still kids -- but at times they seem remarkably adult, so much so that as parents, we can be temporarily fooled into believing they have an adult's capacity to rationalize and make sound decisions (not that every adult is capable of rationalizing or making sound decisions, but you know what I mean). We want so badly for our kids to understand that we have their best interests at heart at all times, for them to heed our counsel because, as I said (and will say again and again), it truly is for their own good. When they respond as if our sole purpose in life is to stop them from having a good time or falling in love or maintaining a social life, it's more than just irritating -- it's downright hurtful. Soul crushing, even. Don't they understand how much we love them? Don't they trust our judgment?

Sometimes they get it, I think. But most of the time, their own desires (and those aforementioned hormones) muddle their perception to the point where, like Sierra, they only see us as obstacles to them getting what they really want (in this case, a disgusting creep of a boyfriend).

It's maddening enough to make a mom want to write a letter to Dear Abby. (But don't bother, because she'll apparently just gloss over that whole thing and tell you that creep belongs in jail -- which, of course, he does.) But someday, I'm betting Sierra will thank her mom. I'm also praying my daughter will thank me for the millions of things I've done to "ruin her life" thus far.

What kinds of things does your teenage daughter get mad at you about?


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