12-Year-Old Girls Switched At Birth Could Happen to Anyone

Two 12-year-old girls who were switched at birth are at the center of a lawsuit in Russia in which one mom is suing the hospital who did it. For 12 years, this mom has rocked, bathed, fed and loved a child who was not biologically hers. Who can blame her for wanting money? It is a scary story that might make all of us want to examine our children more closely.

Yuliya Belyaeva discovered the mistake after she was divorced and her ex-husband refused to pay child support because he said their daughter did not look like him. After DNA tests revealed that neither parent was biologically related to their daughter Anya, the truth came out.

Across town, a little blond girl who looked like both of them had been raised by two dark-haired parents. She was their biological daughter. Both girls want to stay with the families who raised them, but the parents are (understandably) traumatized.

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For years I have joked that when people ask me if my son is mine (which they do all the time), I am going to say he was switched at birth just to confuse them. My son is very blond and while he looks just like my baby photos, he DOES look different than me now as I have very dark (dyed) hair.

I know he is mine, but every time I take him to family they stare at him, puzzled, and say "now where did he come from?" It does make a person paranoid. All of this is a long way of saying that this scenario has crossed my mind. What would I do if I learned that my son was not MY son? My answer is this: Nothing. The same as these Russian girls.

I am sure I would be furious and want to know my biological son on some level. But biology does not make a person a loving parent. I love my son because of who he is. I am in love with the way he talks and hugs and kisses. I love the way he sings and says, "I love you SO much mommy." I love the way he moves his hands when he is happy and sings "Down By The Banks." He is my baby no matter what.

I also know he is mine biologically, too. But when enough people question it, it does make you wonder. As for these two families, I hope they win their lawsuit and I also hope they can find some peace with the idea that the child they love is still "their child." A DNA test can't change that.

Do you ever think about this scenario?

 

 

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