There's more to sex than just sex. It can't just be an "insert here" and five minutes later be over. I guess, it can -- quickies are fun sometimes -- but not every single time. Enter foreplay! The thing we want to do but sometimes just don't have time to do but we really should do more often because it feels amazing.

I'm not just talking about your typical foreplay here either. Though finger play and oral can be totally mind-blowingly fantastic. Here are a few ideas to get you and your partner super hot for each other and halfway to orgasm.

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When it comes to housework, let's face it, there's just nothing sexy about it ... or least not usually. Many of us fantasize about a day in which some magical housework fairy appears to end the day-to-day drudgery, but those fantasies have never looked as good as the reality of half-dressed, hard-bodied men doing the work instead. Oh yes, it's true, and you can see for yourself.

Make sure you have a fan close by, because these videos of Hot Dads Doing Chores by CafeMom Studios are HOT. Let's start with this delicious dad who wants to do your laundry. Brace yourselves.

I’m coming up on the seven-year anniversary of my second marriage.

And I’m really, really happy in my relationship with my husband.

But I can’t help thinking back to this same time in my first marriage, when I was unhappy and contemplating divorce. Which I followed through with just a year later.

What a difference the second time around has been. I have no doubt that this marriage will last for an eternity.

And I’m not alone. A study by the Marriage Foundation found that second marriages are less likely to end in divorce. While 45 percent of first marriages break up, only 31 percent of second marriages follow suit.

I like those statistics. And I agree with the reasons that go along with them: age and experience.

Sex is the great equalizer. It’s the one thing in this world that we all need and want and it doesn’t matter how much money you have, what you look like or what your profession is (unless of course you are a hooker in which case, yeah it matters because you are a professional while the rest of us are amateurs). It’s available to all of us and it’s free. Capability and pleasure go hand in hand. It’s the one thing in the world that you really want to practice. The better you understand what gets you going, the less inhibited you are to vocalize what it is that you want and that is the key to great sex. That, my friends, is how you have a great orgasm and if you are really lucky, a “wegasm”. What the hell is a that, you ask?

How important is oral sex to you?

Let's say that you love your man. And he loves you. The two of you have this really, really wonderful relationship. Except for this one thing: He doesn’t go down on you. You know what I mean. He's not a beaver whisperer or a believer in the art of cunnilingus.  

For some women, this might be okay. But for me, it would be a deal breaker. I think performing oral sex on each other is one of the greatest pleasures of intimacy. And happily, my husband and I are on the same page on this.

But if your guy is hesitant and you're looking to be on the receiving end, here are some things that you can do to help him find his way.

I'm not used to grabbing the attention of random men. After all, I'm a 47-year-old happily married mother of teens. And while I think I look good for my age, honestly, I'm not all that.

But last week, I hit a trifecta: three men flirting with me all within a few hours. And since I was dressed in my mom uniform, I have to believe it happened because I was ovulating.

I am all for PDA (public displays of affection) -- just not in every public place. The reason for this rant? I was sitting in the hospital waiting room as my grandmother had surgery and the couple across from me started kissing. It totally skeeved me out. For one thing, I was sitting right there. Secondly, it was a hospital for Christ’s sake. With that weird antiseptic smell and all those germs wafting around, I barely wanted to take a deep breath, much less go in for some major tongue action. Yuck! Check out the 10 other places you should never make out with your man.

Since most moms, including me, use a smartphone to help keep them organized and connected, why not use it for other important things too?

Like sex.

No, I'm not talking about putting it on vibrate and sticking it in your pocket. There are actual a myriad ways you can use your phone to improve your love life.