It's hard, especially if you've been a long-term relationship or marriage, to keep the sexy alive. It's easy to fall into a rut when it comes to a romp in the bedroom -- we've all done it -- and harder than ever to come back out of the rut with some new sexy moves.

There's no one better to discuss how to please a man then, well, another man.

Here are 15 suggestions from guys about how to bring the heat back into your relationship:

Thankfully, we no longer live in the stone age. Openly now, we can discuss sex, our sex lives, and what we do and do not want in the bedroom. How often, though, do we actually discuss the PROBLEMS we've faced in our sex lives.

It's time to talk about sex -- and common sexual problems. Because everyone deserves a great sex life -- even you.

It seems like women have a lot going on in their pubic area. While it may sound confusing and seem overwhelming, it's not. In fact, most of it is pretty amazing. Especially if you know the right areas. It's time to tell you all about the blended orgasm.

Trust me, you should take notes.

So what's this about a blended orgasm, you ask? It's an orgasm that mixes both of those delicious erotic spots into a single delightful climax.

Great, now how do you do that?

There's nothing better (okay, maybe ice cream. MAYBE) than a toe-clenching body-rocking orgasm. But sometimes, it's kinda hard to, well, get there. I get it -- stress, distraction, new lovers -- well, there's any number of reasons why it's hard to get from here to there. Luckily, I know a little bit about orgasms. Specifically, how to have better ones.

Here are some of my secrets to a better orgasm.

Dear Justin:

I know you have plenty of caring adults in your life and you've managed to avoid a lot of the pitfalls of fame. So congratulations on not becoming a junkie, crashing your car through a storefront, or having your first beer and then spontaneously marrying Lindsay Lohan.

But despite your upstanding ways, scandal found you anyway. I've heard all about this Mariah Yeater claiming you got her alone in a bathroom back stage and now she has a 4-month-old baby made out of your DNA.

I'm not here to discuss her part in this drama, even though she's three years older than you and is suddenly no doubt very conversant with the phrase "statutory rape."

My concern today is a delicate one. I know how hard it is for parents to have "the talk" with a post-pubescent child, so I feel that it's my duty to explain something extremely important to you.

First of all, you need to make sure that the condom you're using is fresh.

The same country that brought us the Australian Sex Party is now pressing buttons on Qantas' international flights. And the buttons happen to be of the orgasmic kind. They're showing the French documentary The Female Orgasm Explained free of charge on the airline's "Edge" channel. 

In the documentary, eight women, mostly in their 20s, but at least one in her 40s and one in her 60s, talk frankly about their orgasms. Old school porn clips are also used. Naysayers believe Qantas has gone too far -- or more accurately, what about the children? Their eyes, their virgin eyes! -- but we show violence all the time on TV, and we never think twice about that. We just don't let kids watch that channel. I don't get what's the big deal about showing pleasure and explaining orgasm. It can only help the opposite sex better understand our needs and for us to better understand our own bodies too. I say, go deeper, deeper! 

When I hit 34, I was totally over the pill. Not only did it decrease my sex drive, but with side effects like blood clots, strokes, and cancer, it increased my hypochondria tenfold. I tried a diaphragm too, but insertion wasn't sexy and spermicide is bad for our vaginas. Patches have too high a hormone level, and IUDs aren't for me (no dangling bits between my bits, thank you). 

The only option that appeals is measuring my basal body temperature, and while totally plausible (I was on the pill for over a decade and never missed one day), it's something I'm more into doing when I'm trying to get pregnant, as opposed to trying not to.

The times are a changin', and scientific advances on contraceptives for men are heating up the market in the forms of pills, gels, and ultrasound. And within a few years, there may be way more options for him to actually stop his own sperm dead in its tracks. YAY!

Male birth control? I say, bring it on. 

It seems like every year an article or book on new! sex! positions! is published, giving us all ideas for exciting! innovative! ways! we can hang from the chandelier, back our partner against a wall, or do it doggie style in the shed. The truth is, these books keep being written because they sell. I know. I once made a DVD tauting 101 Positions for Lovers.

Don't get me wrong, it's great to attempt sex while playing a game of wheelbarrow or standing at opposite ends of a door frame, but really, how often does anyone do that? Honestly, standing on my head is not only not the best sex I can have, but hello head rush.

Sex position books and videos do a good job at having us believe that if we don't bend into a pretzel, we have the most boring sex ever. But, like most women, I prefer sex in certain positions. In fact, there are four basic sex positions I really enjoy. They're probably the ones you like, too.