I'm not used to grabbing the attention of random men. After all, I'm a 47-year-old happily married mother of teens. And while I think I look good for my age, honestly, I'm not all that.

But last week, I hit a trifecta: three men flirting with me all within a few hours. And since I was dressed in my mom uniform, I have to believe it happened because I was ovulating.

For many women, sexy time with their spouse is not as relaxing and comfortable as it ought to be. Instead of being in the moment and focusing on all the good feelings, they are feeling self conscious or bad about their body. It is unfortunate and sad and should not be that way.

Our culture tends to insist that we try to live up to impossible standards. Sure, we could look like Halle Berry if we worked out with a trainer, had low cal meals delivered to our houses and had the best make up and beauty team money can buy. But the reality is, no man really wants his lady looking like a robot anyway.

Real is sexy. It's true. Most men prefer women first thing in the morning with their hair a little mussed, no make up on and casual clothing. With that in mind, here are 6 ways you can start to feel sexier in bed as soon as tonight:

If your husband stops wanting to have sex with you, the first thing that usually goes through your mind is that he's having an affair. I mean, why else would a guy turn down a romp in the sack unless he's getting that romp elsewhere, right??!!! But there's a lot of reasons that hubby can lose his sex drive. And it's happening more and more (or at least people are willing to admit it more). I know couples who have been married less than a year and suddenly the guy loses his mojo -- guys in their 20s even! In fact, a recent poll found that 62 percent of men turn down sex more than their female partner does. What gives?? 

Here's 12 reasons your husband may not want to have sex with you -- besides having an affair.

As a sex book author, it's not surprising that I get a lot of sex questions from people. Why yes, it's as awkward as it sounds.

But I also happen to be a mom of four kids with a husband who travels a lot, so many of the questions I get have to do with trying to fit sex in. I suppose if I can do it, then I must have the answer for them, even if they only have one or two kids.

So if you're wishing for more sex in your relationship or you've got a partner bugging you for more, here are my five tips for fitting sex in.

It's no secret that my husband and I are in marriage counseling. I'm happy to write about it freely and openly because I don't think it's anything to hide and I think it can really help others struggling out there.

Since we started going, I got all the warnings about what would happen, which was everything from "It'll get worse before it gets better" to "Good luck trying to get him to go back."

Uh, thanks?

But I have to be honest, it's actually be really great. In fact, of all the things it's done, I'd say one of the best is that it's helped our sex life. So if you're looking to infuse a little spice back into your marriage, maybe couples therapy is the way to go. Here's why:

As a sex book author, moms often ask me how they can feel sexier, which they somehow think means lube and sex toys and weird bedroom contraptions.

On the contrary, feeling sexier has little to do with the act of sex and more about taking time to care for yourself physically and emotionally. Here are 7 easy ways to make that happen that you might not have thought about.

When we think of soul mates, we think of people like, say, the Twilight characters Bella and Edward. They spend every moment together, they never argue, they have the same interests, ideas, views ... everything. And, of course, they have explosive sex, no matter how many times they have it. But one sex expert says the idea that the best sex is with your soul mate is all wrong. Perhaps that's why Bella and Edward aren't real.

Maybe it's because we've been married for eight years, or because my husband is a little odd, but I think his turn-ons are pretty ... different.

Now considering I get hot watching him do the dishes and fold the laundry, I can see where the regular old sexy underpants foreplay might not do it for him anymore.

So hey, if you're having trouble getting your husband in the mood, maybe these five off-the-wall ideas will work for you.