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    Singer Adam Levine recently let it leak that his pre-wedding prep includes doing something that may make fiancee Behati Prinsloo raise an eyebrow. People's "sexiest man alive" has reportedly contacted all of the many ex-girlfriends he has hurt so that he can apologize to them.

    You may think this is a sweet gesture or even a sign of maturity and emotional growth on Levine's part.

    Or maybe you think he's out of his mind. That he's selfishly attempting to redeem himself when he could have just been a decent guy from the start.

    Whatever your opinion is of the Maroon 5 frontman, the reality is that ordinary folks in extraordinary relationships sometimes feel the desire to get in touch with exes -- to make amends and even include them in their lives. But is it a good idea?

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    Usually when you break up with someone the two of you walk away and stay out of contact. That's what's easiest for a lot of people. But if you're divorced parents you don't have the luxury of cutting someone out of your life. You still need to talk with each other regularly about kids and routines. And that can be extremely challenging, especially when there have been hurt feelings.

    Mental health expert Dr. Charles Figley of Tulane University and author of Families Under Fire says divorce can be extremely traumatizing for families. It's not a wonder former spouses have such difficulty communicating with each other. But there are a few things you can do to improve your relationship with your spouse, at least to the point where you can function together and move forward in your new lives.

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    My divorce is nearing the completion stage (fingers crossed!), which means that I’ve had to deal with the ex more than usual recently. We have not had an amicable split, to say the least. Nope, this is something I pursued on my own, for reasons that don’t really matter for the purposes of this post, nor are anyone’s business anyway.

    This divorce has been an unwelcome challenge, just as my marriage was. I wasn't an idiot, I knew marriage wasn't going to be a cakewalk every day, but I didn't expect it to be so damn hard. Comfortable compromise and finding common ground weren't exactly things my ex and I excelled at together.

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    Amid the gossip over what caused the split between Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, a new theory surfaces. Paltrow and Martin had different parenting styles. Okay, that's a lot less sexy than the rumors about an open marriage -- but these little, daily disagreements can do a lot of damage to a relationship over time. Supposedly Gwyneth was the strict parent, especially when it comes to food, and Chris was more lax about everything. What's going to happen when the kids bounce between households?

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    Hindsight is 20/20, right? In the months leading up to my divorce, I was spending a lot of time trying to figure out if I could survive a life outside of marriage, or would it be better to just concede and continue being the good wife I always had been? It had already become very clear that the husband was happy with the status quo and unwilling to make any changes.

    One day I finally admitted out loud to my therapist, whom I paid to not judge me for expressing such things aloud, "I think I feel like I already have one foot out the door." He gently suggested that given the feelings I had shared with him, it sounded like I had more than "one foot out of the door."

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    It's never easy to break the news of your divorce to your children. Few things feel worse than telling your child you're about to split their world in two. And so it's a little bittersweet to hear that just before announcing their separation, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin left for a family vacation together. The couple and their children, 9-year-old Apple and 7-year-old Moses, are spending time in the Bahamas -- probably the last time the four of them will vacation together ever again.

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    Is there life after a breakup with Adam Levine? Of course there is. And Sports Illustrated and Victoria's Secret model Anne Vyalitsnya (also known as Anne V) is proof. She and Adam dated for what must have been two glorious years but split up back in April of 2012. Now Levine is engaged to another Victoria's Secret model Behati Prinsloo. Damn is Adam lucky!

    Though I bet he was holding his breath when he learned that Anne had some surprising things to say about him and his future bride. Yikes. What could his ex have to say? And perhaps more importantly why is she talking about them?

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    My (hopefully) soon-to-be-ex-husband won’t let me go. It’s been almost a year since I left him, and he is stalling the process by refusing to respond to my settlement attempts. So here I sit, still technically married, but divorced in every other sense of the word.

    He is refusing to let me go, because according to him, he not only still loves me, but also because “we will always be married in God’s eyes.” Sorry, dear, but holding onto something that’s not yours isn’t love, it’s control.

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    You know the golden rule when it comes to your friends and their happiness -- never rain on their parade. So when your friend gets engaged to that guy she’s been seeing that you can’t stand? You swallow it and try to be happy for her, even if you think she’s making a big mistake.

    Maybe that’s not such a great idea after all. About a decade into my marriage, when everything was really crumbling apart, I was talking to a girlfriend that had been part of my now ex-husband’s social group growing up. I was crying and saying that I just didn’t understand his behavior, and she said something that shocked me. “Well, you know him, he’s always been like that.”

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    The other day I was driving my two daughters home from school, and the kindergartener asked me with all serious when we were going to move back to Daddy’s house and be a family again.

    The fifth of never. Ok, I kept that answer to myself and gently explained to her (again) that Mommy and Daddy aren’t getting back together, that we love her and her sister very much, but that we made each other too crazy to live together.

    Then came her very small voice, “But Mommy … Daddy says it’s your fault.”

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