Marriage is this beautiful, amazing, loving, caring union ... until it's not. Sure, some marriages last and last, but some crash and burn leaving behind a huge mess and intense heartbreak -- no matter if you are the one who asked for a divorce or not. They say marriage takes a lot of work, and it does, work that can be really rewarding. But divorce takes even more work, especially when there are kids involved. And that kind of work doesn't come with many rewards. Sometimes when you are in the midst of fighting and deciding you want to get divorced, far too many things and feelings are forgotten about, not considered, because you are in the heat of the moment, the midst of what you feel is a definite finality in your marriage.
Some of those feelings may deceive you. There are so many things I wish someone told me about divorce before I began the whole process.