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Having Sex When You're Co-Sleeping?

by Kim Conte on December 3, 2009 at 9:42 AM

bedHere an anonymous sex question that really riled up A LOT of moms:

If you have sex while co-sleeping and your baby/toddler wakes up, do you finish, or do you stop and put the child back to sleep?

I was surprised at how split moms were on this issue: Some moms were truly disgusted by the thought of having sex in the same bed as a co-sleeping baby or toddler. But other moms didn't see the harm in it—if the children are asleep, they don't know what's going on, right?


Where do you fall on the sex while co-sleeping issue? Take our poll.

Question: Should you have sex in the same bed as your co-sleeping baby/toddler?
  1. Yes. 23%
  2. No. 65%
  3. Not sure. 7%
  4. None of these. 3%
Total Votes: 82
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To Co-Sleep or Not to Co-Sleep?

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Filed Under: relationships, sex life, sleep


  • Lumin...


    December 3, 2009 at 1:54 PM

    gross. NO. We've had sex in the same ROOM... when our kids were tiny babies and had no clue (we're talking 6 months or younger) but in the same BED? Thats wrong. Besides, thats dangerous.

  • pixie...


    December 3, 2009 at 3:15 PM

    Why would you not just move to another place or room?  It's not like the bed is the ONLY place to have sex.  Geez.

  • paul
    -- Nonmember comment from


    December 3, 2009 at 3:42 PM
    what's dangerous LuminousMom?
  • alystyn


    December 4, 2009 at 12:01 PM

    They are asleep, duh!  It's not like they even know what sex IS.

  • happymom
    -- Nonmember comment from


    December 6, 2009 at 9:29 PM
    Please!! You can't hold off till you go to another room? The whole idea sounds rather perverse. By now you should be behaving as two ADULTS (sorry, that's what happens when you decide to become parents, like it or not) . Spontaneity is great, but either put the child in their OWN bed or have some semblance of s.elf-control. Yuck
  • athenax3


    December 7, 2009 at 2:08 PM

    Our children sleep with us often (or did) and we moved to another room or just didn't- I wouldn't feel comfortable nor would my dh being that intimate right next to our children.

  • lesli...


    December 8, 2009 at 2:27 PM

    Bad idea especially with a TODDLER!!! Same room, maybe, same bed? Plain stupidity....Move yourselves to the bathroom for heavens sake.

  • court...


    December 8, 2009 at 3:28 PM

    Your children come first. Sex can wait untill you find a new room.

  • aqmik...
    -- Nonmember comment from


    December 9, 2009 at 6:41 AM
    NOT IN THE SAME. But if the baby 6 months or younger is in a crib or cradle in the same room I see no harm.
  • jen
    -- Nonmember comment from


    December 11, 2009 at 2:13 PM
    Even if they're "knocked out cold" and don't hear, see or feel anything. I think its disrespectful to the child. Plus, I have personally experienced where my surroundings while im sleeping all of the sudden become part of my dream. Poor kid! Its just a selfish thing to do.
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