What's the Longest You've Gone Without Sex?


turtles having sexThis question generated a hot discussion recently in the CafeMom Newcomers Club: What's the longest you've gone without having sex with a partner?

The range of answers might just surprise you. It definitely surprised me! Some moms aren't having any sex, and, wow, some moms, well...you'll have to see for yourself.


  • The longest? One mom said she went without sex for 16 years.
  • Three years without sex seemed to be a very common answer.
  • Many moms said they have gone anywhere from nine months to two years without sex due to their husbands' military deployment.
  • And one mom said the longest she could go without sex was four weeks!

What's the longest you've gone without having sex with a partner?


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MomIWant MomIWant

You mean sex with someone right? Not including the alone train? LOL I would have to say a little over year without a partner...but, can I just say...16 YEARS?  OMGosh

Cafe Kim Cafe Kim

MomIWant--excellent point! Yes, I meant longest you've gone without having sex with a partner. Sorry! Changed it.

Peajewel Peajewel

That is funny as can be!  Sex without a partner 16 years is still a very long time!  Yowza!  Unless of course she was meaning the first 16 years of her life, technically, I guess I did too then!  Just kidding.  I would have to say the longest without a partner would be a little over a year for me. 

Peajewel Peajewel

P.S. -- I am loving the turtle picture, that guy on top looks like he really means business!

Lokis... LokisMama

9 months would be the longest I've ever gone.  I lost my sex drive entirely when I was pregnant with my son, so I didn't have sex til after he was born.  Didn't wait for my 6 weeks though! *giggle*

Freela Freela

About 10 months- full pelvic/bed rest with a complicated pregnancy followed by six weeks of post-delivery recovery.

Yummy... YummyMummy1222

well i guess i am in the popular category of three years!!!!  thats must be the "process" of getting over a nasty breakup....one year to lick your emotional wounds......one year to get your life back on track to where YOU want and need it to be healthy...............and then..wow...loook around at ALL the choices.......it takes a year just to figure out...well ok....6 months for us to figure out WHAT KIND of sex life we want again.....then ANOTHER 6 months to get our bodies to where it needs to be to get INTO all those positions!!!!  lmao............lets just be honest!!!!!!!   hehehe

Kimra Kimra

i went 10 weeks postpartum...but that was only because i am allergic to condoms and i didn't want to take birth control cuz i didn't want to mess up my milk supply...we had to wait 10 weeks to get measured for a diaphragm...now i hate my diaphragm and just use spermicides...i don't think i could last any more than 10 weeks without sex...

TinaJ... TinaJackson

Longest I went w/o sex was about 9 months and that was still in HS. Longest without sex after HS... 3-4 months.

nonmember avatar Donut Man

Longest I've been without sex is 30 years and still counting. Married 40 plus years and sex lost its place in our lives. I have ED and medical issues that have messed up my libdo. Wife understands the situation.   

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