Common Relationship Mistakes: Which Do You Make?

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I've been through a lot of breakups and their aftermaths (which usually consisted of a box of Kleenex, my favorite chick flicks, and a pint of Ben and Jerry's). I'm married now, and even though I've learned from some of my mistakes (dating jerks among them), I'm still guilty of a few of these 15 Relationship Mistakes We Wish We'd Stop Making.

1. Thinking we'll never get over him. We will.

2.  Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. "k thnx" is not code for "hot steamy sex."

3. Thinking our partners must be interested in everything we do, think, and say. When it comes down to it, we zone out when men talk about circuit boards, right? Having friends outside a relationship is a good thing.

4. Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that we're disappointed with anything less.

5. Dropping our friends when we're falling in love. Friends help define who we are, and we need them when things get tough.

6. Not asking for what we want in bed. It can be as little as an appreciative moan when he does something good or as much as a frank discussion about our fantasies. Again, he can't read minds, and we'll both benefit from knowing what we find pleasurable.

7. Denying that there's a problem in our marriage or relationship, instead of facing it and asking ourselves what needs to be done. Problems don't usually go away on their own. Letting them fester only makes it worse.

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What relationship mistake do you repeat over and over?

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mmmom... mmmommy0207

I'm happily married now, but my biggest relationship sin was always getting comfortable in the relationship. You have to put effort into it no matter how long you've been together. You can't be lazy.

vlukey vlukey

Mine has to be complaining. I have learned what to complain about and what to let go.

RanaA... RanaAurora

None of those, that's for sure.


My biggest issue is my own insecurities about my weight make even innocent comments he makes translate into my head into some mean comment about my weight.  I have to stop for a bit and think about what he ACTUALLY meant, and sometimes even ask him, so that I don't dwell on it and get upset.  And sometimes I even know he DIDN'T mean to imply anything about me, but I'll still go cry for a few minutes, but it's not his fault.

nonmember avatar Zac

ladies, #4 is a big one, that can get you in a lot of trouble, every guy is different, some buy into the fairy tail, "love at first sight" "soul mates" idea, some don't, just because a guy dosnt buy into this dons't mean he isn't the right guy and that you two cannot be happy for a long time. im jsut saying, those disney movies and romantic comedy movies are just that: movies, these websites and magazines telling you about relationship pitfalls and mistakes are pitfalls and mistakes in themsleves..if you tell a guy that you want to take a break because of something you read in a magazine or heard on vh1, then the guy will know that "this girl is really pulling a "cosmo told me" your automatically a joke..now this isn't every guy but with me and my friends (college seniors in north carolina) all feel the same way, it's pathetic that you have to turn to a magazine or a website to see what your doing wrong, jsut be yourself, stand by your decisions and be self confident.

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