Catcalls Are Never Flattering -- Despite What One Woman Thinks

A writer from the New York Post recently confessed that she loves summertime because it allows her to wear fewer articles of clothing, enjoy the hot sun -- and be victimized by a bunch of guys on the street who think nothing of catcalling, whistling, and calling her "sweet boobs."

Okay, I made that last part up. But yes, the attractive writer did admit she enjoys "wolf whistles" because they send her "ego soaring." And maybe I need to be easy on her -- perhaps she's fearlessly stating something that is a fact for many straight women: we enjoy the attention of men. To her credit, she separates the "good" catcalls from the "bad:" it's one thing for a man to call a woman "beautiful," and quite another to call her out for having a "big rack."

Only she's missing the point here. Catcalls aren't about US. They are only for the benefit of the men who shamelessly resort to using them.

The writer of this essay says she discovered the magic of catcalls when she was a mere 20-year-old flower who worked as an intern for MTV. She appreciated the way these men -- she speaks a great deal about construction workers, by the way -- spoke their minds and didn't play games the way college guys did.

I feel sad for this woman -- not because she doesn't deserve all of the attention she can get -- she's absolutely gorgeous -- but because she has allowed the comments of strangers to have such a great impact on her self-worth. When men pass comments about our beauty on the street, we are a thought to them for, maybe, a millisecond before they move on to the next female in a skirt.

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Their goal isn't to flatter -- it's to reassure themselves that they are more powerful than we are -- I guess it really isn't enough to know they make more money than we do?

If you think about it, the sexiest men in the world aren't the ones you can picture hanging out on a street corner, throwing around and wasting perfectly good compliments on perfect strangers -- women they may not even have the desire to date or get to know. You think Jon Hamm has ever demanded that a woman "smile" for him? 

Confident, sexy men who know they have a lot to offer women don't feel the need to make them feel uncomfortable on the street. And any woman who appreciates what amounts to a man tearing open a festering wound of insecurity and allowing it to ooze across the stilettos that inspired so many tasteless comments is selling herself short.

Do you like catcalls or do you feel they are degrading to women?

 

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PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Oh get off your Gloria Steinem soap box. These guys wouldn't know what to do if you took them up on one of there "offers", you know what they're about,in the mean time the suave gent may come off gallant but may bash your head in, because no one tells him no.

happymia happymia

Who cares if she likes the attention. Who are you to tell women that they shouldn't like it? This whole site is dumb.

Gamer... Gamer_mom1

It's true. The catcallers are men who see women as objects and see themselves as superior and entitled. They aren't complimenting a womans beauty. They're shouting out comments about her body because they feel they are entitled to evaluate and let her know they are doing it.


 

sassy... sassykat122

Oh dear sweet Jesus, overkill much? GAMER and Lisa you are telling me you have never ever ever objectified a man you passed? GET OVER IT

nonmember avatar sarah

how dare she liked something you don't..how dare she have her own mind!!!

nonmember avatar Lisa

I got a catcall from a woman the other day.Do I get offended or not?Oh please Lisa tell me what to think!!

nonmember avatar Jocelyn

I agree with you sasskykat.

nonmember avatar Hmmm

thats kinda ironic Lisa -especially coming from a site who has been known to shred guys on penis size.Which is something many women have done repeatedly on the stir blog as well as all over your forums...go figure

nonmember avatar Hmmm

thats kinda ironic Lisa -especially coming from a site who has been known to shred guys on penis size.Which is something many women have done repeatedly on the stir blog as well as all over your forums...go figure

Doula... Doulamama4

First, catcalling is degrading to men because those who do it clearly lack the class and intelligence to approach a woman in an appropriate way.  Second, my primary complaint with this article is that once again women are bashing women.  The wonder of modern feminism is that we can like what we like and want what we want without being less than, right?  Or am I missing something?  

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