Woman Who Voluntarily Lives Like 1950s Housewife May Save All Our Marriages

1950s housewifeIf you're feeling like your marriage is in a rut, here's one option for shaking things up: Try it 1950s-style. 

Mandy and Gary Jones say living a 1950s lifestyle saved their marriage. They dress in vintage clothes, decorate their house with kitschy mid-century antiques, drive a 1949 Chevrolet, listen to rockabilly records on a jukebox, and yes, have even reverted to 1950s-style gender roles. "It may seem strange and we get the odd nasty comment," Mandy Jones says, "but this way of life works for us and has saved our marriage."

In fact, the Joneses think we should all "take advice from our grandparents" and live the '50s way. "1950s marriages definitely work better than marriages these days," Mandy says. She'll have to forgive my skepticism, but that's not what my divorced-in-the-1950s grandmother says. But let's give these two the benefit of the doubt, because they really do seem happy. What is it about their marriage that's working, and what can we learn from it?

1. Mandy has dinner waiting on the table when Gary comes home from work. Lucky Gary! Maybe if you both work all day, you could take turns treating each other? I know I'd love to come home to dinner on the table.

2. They eat "wholesome 1950s food" in their diner-style kitchen. Sitting down to eat dinner together every night is going to benefit your relationship, no doubt about it. And if the food is healthy, all the better. It doesn't have to be meatloaf and potatoes, but hey, if that floats your boat, great.

3. Mandy makes her own vintage-style clothes "to impress her husband." I think you should never stop trying to impress each other, both wives and husbands. It doesn't matter how you do this, just that you still care. And I bet Gary is appreciative of Mandy's efforts -- that's important, too.

4. Instead of spending their weekends drinking at the local bar, they go dancing and take trips to vintage fairs. You need some interesting hobbies to do together besides drinking, or watching TV, or anything passive. "If you've got a common interests together," Gary says, "it definitely makes you stronger."

5. Their vacations are built around dance festivals. What do you both love doing together? Could you build a vacation around that?

6. They've made friends in the vintage dance and collecting scene. You can't expect to get everything you need just from each other. You need to build a support network of friends, too.

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I don't think we have to actually adopt a 1950s lifestyle to make a marriage happier. But it seems clear that sharing a common vision for life and enjoying activities together has grown this couple's passion for each other. And that's something any couple will benefit from, no matter what your favorite decade is.

What do you think of this vintage-style marriage? Do you think it's the gender roles or the shared obsession that makes them happier?

 

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PRIMA487 PRIMA487

Marabel Morgan's The Total Woman comes to mind. Scary!

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I would consider doing this just for the chance to wear clothes from the 50's! The silhouettes from this era and the early 60's are my absolute favorite, and influence most of the clothes I buy.

ShellLea ShellLea

Sorry but my husband likes to come home and see me in jeans and a tank top, sweaty and filthy from whatever project I took on that day. If I dressed like a girly girl and spent my time ironing and cooking I'm pretty sure he would leave me, lol.

Elaine Cox

not my thing but hey its their thing so good luck

the4m... the4mutts

We do about half of this. We conform to traditional gender rolls, but in a more modern way. I do the majority of cooking, cleaning & child rearing, but he makes sure I don't get overwhelmed by giving me days off. He cooks, cleans, and entertains kids while I go see a movie with his sister.

Im not a girly girl, but I do make an effort to keep my appearance up, as does my husband. We like to look good for each other.

We also find "odd" things to do with our time together. We happen to have chosen thrift shops, and furniture upcycling. We go shop, bring home items, make them pretty, and either keep them for ourselves, give them to family or sell them on craigslist.

We also have a passion for exotic pets. We treat our pigs, snakes, and turtles (and 2 dogs) better than most people do. Granted, they're still just animals, but they're important to us.

We have the same parenting values, and he lets me rear the kids how I see fit. He backs me up.

It's not total 1950s, but it's definitely different from most relationships we see around us 99% of the time.

iicar... iicarmerin

If it helps their marriage then it's clearly working. My husband and I took on more traditional roles after we had children. I stay at home, clean, cook and take care of the kids while he works. This works for us in our current situation, but once all the kids are in school I will probably get a part time job.

nonmember avatar Holly Dee

Its all fine and well until you cant pay the mortgage

Jozemom Jozemom

Marriages weren't necessarily more successful, it's just that divorce was not as easy as it is today.  There were many, many women in the fifties staying in extremely abusive relationships because they had no other options. 


That being said, if this couple is happy in their make believe world, then have at it. 

mem82 mem82

Maybe it's a little of both?

aasmi... aasmith88

Lmao. Just because these values work for them does not mean they will for others. 


I am not a great cook, so having dinner ready would probably stress my dh out haha. 


We don't really drink, but we are not dancers.. More of movie and ice cream couple haha

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