You're watching the wrong kind of pornBelieve it or not, I'm a big fan of pornography, which tends to make most moms give me a raised eyebrow or a judgmental look. I'm certainly not a porn addict by any means, I enjoy watching for my own pleasure and education.

After all, what better way to improve your moves in the bedroom?

I've found is that many moms don't like porn because they're watching the wrong kind. So, here are my two suggestions for finding porn that will work for you. And trust me, it really does work.

When moms think of porn, they typically think of a ridiculously fake-looking woman having sex with a ridiculously average-looking guy with a big penis. And really, that's exactly what I thought porn was too, and that's all I had ever really seen up until I bought this video (yes, it was an actual videotape), with a variety of different scenarios on it. I realized there is much more to it than just the male-dominated porn most of us are familiar with.

Let's just say the scene with three women getting it on was some of the hottest sex I had ever seen.

And no, I'm not a lesbian. And I'm not bisexual.

For whatever reason, or really lots of reasons that are both personal and pretty obvious, I find two, three, or even four women together way hotter than heterosexual sex.

And if you want to add a guy into the mix, all the hotter.

Granted, this might not be your preference, but it's always worth a try. And that's really just the tip of the iceberg. Take a peek at the different "combinations"; you might be surprised at what turns you on.

Another problem is that for many moms, it's not the sex that's the problem but the idea that these women are performing against their will or might be underage. And it's a legitimate concern.

That's why I'm very careful to watch feminist porn when I can, which has pretty strict rules in terms of everything from how the performers are hired to the acts they perform.

You can also find specific porn stars who might not do feminist porn but are wiling to admit their age and preference up front, so you know what you're getting when you watch their videos.

So before you completely write off porn as gross, disgusting, or degrading to women, you might be really surprised at how good it can be -- and how much it can positively impact your sex life.

Do you watch porn or is it too uncomfortable or too much of a turn-off for you?

 

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