Kid Walks in on You During Sex? 6 Things You Should Do Next

do not disturbIt happens to the best of us. It's late at night and you're having sex with your spouse -- as quietly as you possibly can. But just as things are getting exciting you hear a creak and a "Mommy ... ?" EEEK! Your child walked in on you having sex! There you both are, naked, and in a position that's very hard to explain. Plenty of experts have written about how to handle your child when that happens. But you know what? The kid will be okay. What I'm more concerned about is how you're supposed to resume the sex after you've put the little one back to bed. Here are 6 tips for getting back into your sexual groove after your child has walked in on you.

We asked sex expert and author of The Official Booty Parlor Mojo Makeover: 4 Weeks to a Sexier You Dana B. Myers for some advice. Here's what she suggests.

1. Don't give in to a downward spiral of exasperation. "Don't let frustration get the best of you," Myers says. You may want to start ranting, "Why can't we EVER have a moment alone?!?" But nip that in the bud. Avoid using those big words like "never" and "ever."

2. Divide and conquer so you can keep your mind in a sexy state. While one of you (preferably your husband) sends your child back to bed, you do whatever you need to do to stay in the mood. Keep touching yourself, pick up some porn, whatever it takes to "keep your head in the game," as Myers puts it.

3. Don't talk about what just happened. "Kiddie talk is usually libido-crushing," Myers says. You can talk about why your child woke up, how you got her back to sleep, whether or not she needs therapy now (just kidding!) in the morning. But not now.

4. Have a stay-sexy mantra. Find a phrase that keeps you in the mood, like "I'm feeling so hot now" or "nothing can stop me!" Nothing can stop you, sexy mama! I'm serious, mantras help.

5. Return to the same "kind" of sex you were having. If you were having soft, romantic type sex, start by coming face to face and just breathing together, then move on to kissing. If you were having hot lava sex, find something to spark that energy: A toy, props, anything you know will bring back that heightened sense of arousal.

6. Most importantly, be present. Myers emphasizes that the most important thing is that you find a way to become present again. Set aside your feelings of embarrassment or worry for the moment and just try to reignite that connection. Remind yourself, "no matter what happens, our time together is a priority." Put the focus back on your relationship.

Has your child ever walked in on you when you were having sex? What did you do?


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nonmember avatar Cristen

Yup. She came up to the bed and said it's getting bouncy in here! We couldn't help but laugh really hard then put her back to sleep and we continued.

purra... purracious

Not yet, but if and when it does I'm sure these tips will be VERY helpful!

night... nightwhispers76

Sent the child back to bed and continued! My husband and I have a very healthy sex life and didn't let interruptions stop us. Now that the kids are a bit older, they know a closed bedroom door means Mom and Dad need some alone time and unless they are sick or very scared they are not to disturb us. If they must, they know to knock on the door and not just walk in. Boundaries need to be set as far as parents rooms are concerned!

Diane Greer

really? that's all you got?

Christine Korthaus

What about when you wake up to your adult child having sex with her fiance---in the same room?! This happened on a family cruise lol. I started laughing and told them to wait til I got dressed and got out, which I promptly did. I went and had coffee on deck. My future son-in-law couldn't look at me for the next two days. Probably didn't help that I snickered every time I saw them. 

nonmember avatar Ashley

Nope I put a lock on my door so that never happens lol

nonmember avatar Rave

I used to run in on my parents all the time by accident. Eventually as I got older my mom flat out told me one Christmas as we were opening our stockings, "don't go in our room. We're going to have sex." So I made sure my little brother stayed occupied with the candy in his stocking and avoided my parents for a couple of hours. Now that I'm married with kids of my own it's kinda funny when my son runs in on us. Luckily we can usually. ...usually hear him coming and cover with the blanket. Last time it happened he looked at us funny and flat out asked my husband, "what are you doing to my mom? ". He's three. All we could do is laugh and send him out with a movie. It never stops us from finishing I think mostly because we just laugh about it instead of freaking out.

Karen McKaig Smith

Have your husband take them back to bed.....really? Think about it people.....that would scare the child for life! Hahahah..

Amy Lynn Markell

It's called lock your door people! I have four kids and not once has this happened to me, nothing thrilling about the possibility of my kids catching us, so hello...lock the door!

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