Astounding Number of Men Say They've Had 'Unwanted Sex'

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Throw out everything you know about sexual aggression and coercion and get ready for this next bit of information to blow your mind. Nearly half of high school- and college-aged men claim to have experienced "unwanted sexual contact" from a female aggressor.

According to a study published in the American Psychological Association journal, Psychology of Men and Masculinity, a survey of 284 young men found that a whopping 18 percent reported forceful sexual coercion, 31 percent claimed to have been verbally coerced, and 26 percent said they were seduced by "sexual behaviors."

Half of the men that experienced the coercion reported that they ended up having sex against their will.

Is this an indication of female empowerment gone too far? Are we now just taking it from these guys even when they don't want it? And how are we even getting it? For the most part, guys are bigger and stronger than us ... in theory it shouldn't be that difficult to gently push a forward female off his person, should a guy not want it.

I'm guessing that the majority of women that seduce unsuspecting males do so more psychologically than physically. All it might take is a well-placed comment about him not being masculine enough to do the deed to fire up that male competitiveness.

Regardless of how it happens, Dr. Bryana French, the co-author of the study, believes that more research needs to be done on male sexual victims and how to help them. Being dudes, they have a hard time even coming forward about it, and when they do, they are reluctant to describe the coercion in detail. She said, "But when asked if it happened, they say it happened."

Are you surprised that so many men claim to have had unwanted sex?


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prplecat prplecat

Sorry, but I consider seduction and coercion two completely different things.

nonmember avatar Karma

What do we call it when it happens to a female? Equality is out the window on this subject...while female teachers sexing male students is on the rise. Hmmmm

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Unless their being drugged or forced with a weapon or something like that I don't see how being seduced is forced. So what she said you're not man enough that's ego not coercion. I know it happens but seduction is not the same.

nonmember avatar john

Haha, so here we go again. Women trying to downplay things than happen to men. Yes, because we all know that women are not POSSIBLY capable of doing anything wrong. I'm sure there are plenty of men who are physically abuse but just choose to remain silent for the very reason of the some of these comments from women. Case in point Mrscjones: "So what she said you're not man enough" Then Jenny says: " For the most part, guys are bigger and stronger than us ... in theory it shouldn't be that difficult to gently push a forward female off his person, should a guy not want it." Gee Jenny, did it ever occur to you that even a "gentle" push might get a guy into serious trouble. It's his word against hers. I could see the woman being so vengeful that she would file assault charges against him. Because how could he POSSIBLY not want to have sex with me! SMH

Vanessa Fasanella

I've heard both men and women say that they have said yes and had sex with someone they didn't even like or at a time when they didn't want to because it was easier than saying no. That's sad.

the4m... the4mutts

My husband had something similar happen when he was in his 20s. He was working 14-16hr days on power plants, so thats 10 days on, 5days off, (lots of work)

He caught the eye of the manager of the complex where they were staying.

He had politely turned her down more than once.

But one night, he came in, tired as hell, and undressed half way before he fell asleep.

This woman decided to come in and try to seduce him. She got on top of him naked and everything. He was too dog tired for her to get a "rise" out of him, so she got more aggressive. He woke up, tossed her out on her ass, naked, for her husband to see, and filed charges because she used HER MASTER KEY to get into his place.

Bitch got arrested, spent 30 days in jail, paid fines, and lost her business, as well as her husband.

This shit does happen, and it is sexual assault. (Except in Utah, where he was working apparently.)

nonmember avatar Karma

What about alcohol Mrscjones? Would you say the same if the gender were reverse? Why we women (most) down play this when it involve men as possible victim? Jenny, just FYI....there are some women who are bigger than their husband. I bet that didn't cross your mind on your borderline sexist remark about his size. Again, what would we call this in reverse? Lets not be hypocrites on sexual assault.

nonmember avatar Karma

At least, Time had the balls to call it for what it is...I wonder why you guys chose to evade the word? I will keep my eyes open for an article similar that involves women. Some how, I feel it will be totally different for the same subject.

Reh2002 Reh2002

Glad that more research is finally coming out on sexualt assault and rape of males.

This should be publicised, especially in highschools and colleges. We have a cultural myth that all males think about is sex, that they always want it no matter what. This assumption encourages/convinces females that it is impossible for them to sexual assault or rape, and to ignore otherwise obvious signs of human distress, anxiety, discomfort and fear. 


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