It may be the first day of spring, but it's also National Proposal Day! Yes, it's true! And what better way to celebrate than by taking a microscope to some stunning findings from David's Bridal's 8th annual "What's on Brides' Minds" survey of newly engaged and married women? Hmm, actually, I guess being proposed to would be the best way -- even for those of us who are already hitched. Because if this survey is any indication, 1 in 2 of us would love a re-do proposal!
Well, 53 percent, in fact, said they'd change something about their proposal if they could: 22 percent would change the location; 14 percent something about their engagement ring; 14 percent wish different people had been present for the Q-popping; 10 percent wanted a different engagement date; and 3 percent would change something else. Ouch!
So, to test these stunning stats ourselves, we asked real women to share about the proposals they wish had gone down (even a bit!) differently. Here, 10 proposals gone wrong ...
- "So it was my high school graduation party, and he'd had a few too many. He got down on BOTH knees in my parents' house and asked me to marry him. I didn't know if he was being serious ... or would remember it later! Fortunately he did and said he meant it, but well, needless to say, I'd much rather have had a sober proposal I could have been 'sure' of!"
- "We had spent all day apple picking in beautiful rolling hills. Dropped our friends off at home, and then he proposed while we were sitting in the car outside of their house! I was such a brat. I made him drive to a park and ask again!"
- "He did it in Vegas on our one-year anniversary. I was getting dressed for dinner and he was acting all weird. I knew something was going down. And then, when I asked him how I looked, he said, 'Great, but your outfit is missing something.' Then he got down on one knee, yada, yada, yada. Showed me the ring, which he had bought like the day before without putting any research in. I was so bummed that it wasn't this huge surprise."
- "My ex proposed in a Safeway parking lot. I frequently wonder why I married the man."
- "I wish I was dressed up instead of in sweats and hungover! And I wish my neighbors, who we hated, weren’t the ones who decorated our apartment with flowers while we were out. It was so weird when they came over afterwards!"
- "After dating for only three or four months, I told my then-boyfriend (now ex-husband) that I loved him, and instead of just saying 'I love you' back, he skipped that step and asked me how I’d feel about a summer wedding the following year. (Whatever, I was 24, so I was thrilled.) We designed our own rings and had them made in a shop in the East Village, which was really cool. But I never got that iconic proposal moment. After we picked up the rings, he did this jokey mock proposal in his bedroom. He got down on one knee and was all, 'Haha, will you marry me?' SIGH."
- "He proposed at my parents' house when I was home from college, before we went out to dinner at his favorite restaurant with my ex-boyfriend (who he was friends with and I remained friendly with, but still!). I should have asked for a do-over ..."
- "My husband proposed at this very nice mountain house, and I kind of knew it was coming, because I’m just so intuitive about stuff like that, but didn’t want to ruin the surprise. We went for a hike, and I could tell he was trying to find just the right opportunity to ask me, but chickened out a couple times. When we were in having tea in the big, public sitting room -- which was packed because they had a fire and it was a cold day -- he got down on his knee and pulled out the ring. I grabbed the box closed, took the ring, and ran from the room. I was so embarrassed. He knew how I hated doing things like that in public, and I panicked with all those people looking for us. When we got outside I said yes and hugged him, but not before I scolded him for doing that to me when he KNOWS I hate to be the center of attention. Funny thing is, I wouldn’t change how it happened because it was just so 'me' and so 'us.' We never go by the book!"
- "We drove to Key West for the weekend, and my husband’s plan was to propose on the pier as the sun was setting the next day, because he knows how much I love watching the sun set. But he just couldn't wait (no patience at all -- LOL!). We arrived in Key West at like 11 p.m., and he said, 'Let’s go for a walk,' but that was totally out of character for him, given we’d just driven four hours, and he was exhausted. So I kind of knew something was up. We walked along the beach for half a minute and he got down on one knee ... and although it was beautiful (I really shouldn’t be complaining!), it kind of would have been nice to have him propose as the sun was setting on the pier."
- "My DH is never good at keeping secrets, and that includes presents. He usually buys my gift for birthdays and Christmas the day before. ... Well, he went with my little brother and bought my engagement ring and had it all ready for an upcoming trip. We ended up getting into an argument the day after he bought the ring (something stupid about car insurance), and he decided that the best way to end the argument was to propose to me there on the spot. Of course I loved the ring, and I said yes, but I still wish he wouldn't have used that time to propose. Now every time I think about how we got engaged, I just remember that he wanted to make monthly payments on our car insurance, and I wanted to make annual payments. Very romantic."
Be honest: How do you feel about your proposal? Would you want a do-over?
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