The 5 Worst Places to Take a Single Mom on a First Date

5 worst date ideas for a single momThis article was written by Sophie Rosen of DivorcedMoms.com.

Being a single mother almost always means a life spent racing the clock. Our days often begin well before dawn and extend long past sundown. In between, our schedules are filled with the rigors and challenges of balancing career, child rearing, and homemaking.

An evening spent with a great guy is something I know I always look forward to. But what guys think is a dating hot spot may be, for a single mom, a surefire dating not-not.

Here are 5 places never to take a single mom on a first date.

1. A fondue restaurant. Who wouldn’t love to cook her own meal? Someone who does it every day, three times a day, and on weekends! The last thing I want to see is raw chicken and steak sitting on my plate in a restaurant. And at the table where I will eat, no less! I can cook comfortably (and safely) at home, where I have my Windex within close reach for added measure. I’m also pretty sure a guy will not find my extreme use of hand sanitizer at the table very sexy. And, if on the off-chance I do contract salmonella, I will definitely not remember him fondly. Thanks, but no thanks.

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2. The movies. Guys may think sitting in a dark movie theater next to a woman is romantic. There's a little hand holding, maybe some smooching. But not necessarily true for a single mom. We are always exhausted. Always. And sleep comes at a premium. Give us a cushy chair in a warm, dark theater, and chances are it will be lights out within minutes. Not even a shirtless Ryan Gosling could wake this single mama when I’m down for the count. Of course, I know I’ll be seeing him in my dreams. But I digress ...

3. The mall. Okay, it’s not 1987, and we’re not in high school anymore. Unless a guy tells me for a fact that Jon Bon Jovi will be walking around the mall with his '80s glam rock hair signing autographs, I’m not game. As a single mom, the mall is merely a reminder of too many ill-fated, temper-tantrum-ridden trips to The Gap and desperate attempts to feed whining, hungry kids at a packed food court circa holiday time. I definitely won’t be looking to make out with him under the escalator on this date.

4. Walgreens. We’re not in college anymore, and I don’t hook up. I’m a single mom. I have children, for goodness' sake! A guy should buy protection before our date, not during, or he will surely find himself in need of some serious protection from one pissed mutha. Talk about a mood killer. Sheesh.

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5. The shared marital home. I don’t care how amicable a guy claims his divorce is. I will not be comfortable kissing him on the same couch where his ex watches episodes of Cougar Town four nights a week. Even worse will be if I admire the way his ex lives. If I like her choice in paint colors. Her Ralph Lauren furniture. Because maybe, just maybe, if her lifestyle reminds me too much of my own, I may just grow to like her. And, as we know, single moms can never have too many friends!

Where is the worst place a guy ever took you on a date?

 

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JS0512 JS0512

Seriously?  The fondue bar & movie theater shouldn't even be on this list.  Those are perfectly acceptable places to have a date.  The fondue bar (personal hang ups aside) provides you an evening out with an adult among OTHER adults.  Win.  The movie...probably the first chance in a long time to see a movie that isn't rated G.  Win. 

adamat34 adamat34

Who takes dates to walgreens???

Is that suggesting the inevitable purchase of condoms or other sexual aides???

Who wrote this list? I haven't seen a movie in a theatre that wasn't animated or a superhero for years would be a nice gesture if someone took me to a movie I was interested in seeing.

NikiG91 NikiG91

Why do men take women to a movie on a first date? Something I've always been curious about. I want to get to know someone well enough to know if I want a second date. That isn't going to happend in a dark movie theater. If I want to see a movie that isn't G rated I can call up a girlfriend for that.


And, when I'm at a movie I pig out on popcorn and hot tamales. And no, I don't want to share my popcorn or my inclination to stock up on junk food on a first date. Unromantic!

Lucki... Luckicharmz

I can't speak for the last two because they're just stupid but the first 3 shouldn't be on this list at all. I was a single mom and I LOVE fondue and find it a very nice social dinner.

nonmember avatar Typical Guy

I know you write to "connect" with women, but you make your children sound like a pack of screaming banshees who were raised by wolves and the Mongol Horde.

Who would want to spend ANY time with you if your children are (as YOU describe them) snot-nosed, temper-tantrum-ridden, whining, hungry, monstrous brats who wake you up before sunup and keep you up until after midnight?

A movie is a bad idea for a first date - if you want to TALK to a woman, that is - but the rest make you sound like a Vietnamese street walker. Who in the HELL are you letting into your panties? These guys are loser douche bags. It says something about your man attracting and selecting skills, that much is clear.

SLA28 SLA28

I'll tell you where you shouldn't take a woman on a first date, regardless if she's a mom or not.


Hooters.


I got taken there on a first (and I made sure it was the last) date.  Guys, I don't care how much you "love their wings" (PUH-LEASE, try that excuse on a 4 year old, not me) or how "sweet" one particular waitress is (who happens to be the most well-endowed lady I've ever seen).  Grow the heck up already!


IT'S NOT A PLACE FOR A FIRST DATE IF YOU WANT A CHANCE AT A SECOND DATE!!!!!

NikiG91 NikiG91

@typical guy, first that is an appropriate username. Maybe "typical angry guy" would have been better though. I hope you come back because I seriously need you to explain the connection between the "rest" and a Vietnamese street walker. And, I think when she said, "I don't do hookups" she pretty much gave you an idea of who she is "letting into her panties."


Vietnamese street walker? Seriuosly? That is mean for the sake of being mean.


sticking out tongue

nonmember avatar Poppa Big Dong

You know where the ladies like to go on a date? Drive in movies.



It works well for all kinds of ladies. You hang out in your ride, can adjust the volume so you can talk, and you can sip on some nice cognac.



If she is dtf you can bang in the backseat, if not, you can just drive off when she goes to the bathroom.

Sven1204 Sven1204

Actually any first date where you don't book a table or the tickets to the newest hot restaurant, movie, opera, ballet or show. Where we rock up dressed to the nines only to be turned away at the door! Look buddy, if you are expecting me to shave my legs, dress to kill and put on a bra, make-up and heels you had better bloody well have booked in advance. Because I think you're worth dressing up for and I'd better be worth planning a super first date with!

nonmember avatar A single dad

If you are so picky, I would not want a meaningful LTR with you. Might as well get together and eat a bunch of caramels.

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