Cheating sucks, period. Whether or not things were going swimmingly in the relationship or the two partners were headed for Splitsville -- hearing that a man, your man, has gone for someone else? Yeah, hello major punch in the stomach. Often times, being cheated on triggers such a wide array of emotions, many of which may make a crying woman want to hide behind a bedroom door ... forever.
And as hard as it is for the person in the relationship, it's also hard for her friends to try and figure out how to be around her. Let's face it: it's the female nature to try to say something, anything to comfort your friend after the hardship she's been through. That's why we need to go through the procedure. Here are 10 things never to say to someone who's been cheated on:
1. He was never right for you. Great. So you're telling her this now when you should have told her months before? I'm sure she would have valued your opinion when she was head over heels, too.
2. It happens to everyone. Actually, it doesn't. And saying this just makes her upset thinking about her other good friend who just posted her beautiful engagement photos on Facebook.
3. He was never nice to your friends. Oh, so now you're telling her that she should have something sooner.
4. Are you SURE you can't take him back? So you think the right thing to do is to set her up for more failure, eh? I mean, sure, there are one-offs and everyone has their own opinion about what it means if a woman goes back to a man who has cheated on her. But still, telling her to go back so soon after the trauma? Probably not the best idea.
5. You should get tested. Way to kick her when she's down. Exactly what she needs, to freak out some more right now.
6. What's she like? You honestly think your girlfriend wants to think about the other woman?!
7. Once a cheater, always a cheater. This makes your friend feels like it's her fault that the man cheated on her. Maybe she really thought this was different. And if that's the case, the last thing she needs to do is blame herself for his indiscretions.
8. Do you think it's something you did? STOP. MAKING. HER. OVERANALYZE. THINGS.
9. Have you guys have sex since you found out? If she says yes, she's weak. If she says no, she may think about how much she misses that intimacy and break down. Either way, it's a lose-lose.
10. How could you NOT have known? Were there any signs? Again with the blame game. Just so, so unnecessary.
How have you dealt with a cheating significant other in the past?
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I create a special savings account
I put a little away at a time
I cut corners until I can afford it
Save? Who has money to save?
I plan to put it on my credit card and love the benefits of the reward program