The Truth About Circumcision and Sex -- From a Guy Who Knows

I have a horrible disability that was inflicted on me by my closest loved ones and celebrated with a bottle of wine. And it was my people, the Jews, who invented it.

I can't share the details of this problem with my parents or best friends, but I'm going to share it with you. Are you sure you're ready? OK...

I am only sensitive on one tiny area on the underside of my penis. This is what most of us call our G-spot. For me, it's my O-spot, for "only." Other than that, little Corey is sexually numb. Touching him anywhere else is like rubbing an arm.

Hey, you said you were ready.

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If a vagina does not constantly rub my O-spot, I cannot climax and often lose my erection. Coming inside my own wife is possible only after she provides foreplay like I'm the woman.

And I don't even get a handicapped parking sticker.

Your man might not have a problem like mine but, if he is circumcised, he has been desensitized to some degree. Depending on the tightness of the cut, circumcision transforms between 20 to 80 percent of a male's sexually sensitive tissue into medical waste. (The tissue folds inside the foreskin, which keeps it moist and protected from overstimulation.) The thin round band of what is left is further desensitized due to drying out.

If you are incensed about female circumcision, have you considered what you probably already did to your son(s)?

Most Americans consider uncircumcised penises to be uncouth, ugly, and difficult to keep clean -- an opinion held over from the days before showers were commonplace. Other than my fellow "intactivists," few question these deeply ingrained attitudes. Yet this ancient ritual -- tracing back to Abraham's instructions in the Book of Genesis -- came about to make it more difficult for males to commit the sin of masturbation. Right there, that should tell you something about its primary repercussion. In Victorian times, circumcision caught on with non-Jews because masturbation was widely thought to cause a number of diseases.

Some intactivists want their foreskins back badly enough to grow only a portion of it back with less sensation -- that is, besides the excrutiating pain of spreading and stretching their remaining skin with devices called "tuggers."

Yeah, uh, I'll settle for spreading the word.

What's your view of male circumcision, and has this caused you to question it at all?

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Evaly... EvalynCarnate

Oh man, are you opening a can of worms, buddy....

nonmember avatar Gwen

1. Botched your circumcision.

nonmember avatar M

Do you think it has to do with when the male is circumcised? What if you waited for the male to be older as opposed to doing a circumcision on an infant?

RoseL... RoseLiMom

thank you for being brave enough to speak out when many will dismiss you. have you looked into the historical biblical circumcision perhaps not being what it is today? Zipporah circ'd moshe's son with a flint rock! a baby would die from bleeding to death if that was done to remove so much tissue like is done today. i think they remove much more than HaShem intended and was practiced. just food for thought! do you have a son? ihow would your family react to you having an intact son?

sassy... sassykat122

EVALYNCARNATE... can't you just feel the wriggling beginning? Lol. That said sounds to me this guy had a major botched procedure. My husband says he has no problems. What is the certification process for rabbi's who do circ's? Are they allowed to do them without some medical supervision board or whatnot?

Robin Hartman

i'm glad i didn't circumcise, they can do it if they choose when they are older. 

2baby... 2babymomma

I wouldn't circumcise if I had any sons

Gary Harryman

Neurologically, the most specialized pressure-sensitive cells in the human body are Meissner’s corpuscles for localized light touch and fast touch, Merkel’s disc cells for light pressure and tactile form and texture, Ruffini’s corpuscles for slow sustained pressure, deep skin tension, stretch, flutter and slip, and Pacinian corpuscles for deep touch and detection of rapid external vibrations. They are found only in the tongue, lips, palms, fingertips, nipples, and the clitoris and the crests of the Ridged Band at the tip of the male foreskin. These remarkable cells process tens of thousands of information impulses per second and can sense texture, stretch, and vibration/movement at the micrometre level. These are the cells that allow blind people to "see" Braille with their fingertips. Cut them off and, male or female, it's like trying to read Braille with your elbow. A woman can live without the sensitivity of the visible part of her clitoris. A man can live without the only mobile and most sensitive part of his penis. But, both men and women are better off with their natural fine-touch parts intact. And so are their sexual partners.

Jonathon Conte

Thanks for speaking out. ALL individuals—male, female, and intersex—have a human right to bodily integrity and deserve to be protected from forced genital cutting. The genital mutilation of any child has got to be the most heinous form of physical and sexual abuse that one could devise.

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