Man Who Poses as a Woman to Date Online Gets the Shock of a Lifetime

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You guys, I am laughing so hard right now. There was a guy on Reddit that decided to pose as a woman in order to “prove” how much easier chicks have it than dudes when it comes to online dating. He lasted two hours before he got sick of it and deleted the account.

A Redditor going by the name OKCThrowaway22221 was apparently joking around with a female friend recently that “girls have it easy on dating sites,” and just for kicks and giggles, he decided to set up a fake account -- a “gender-swapped version” of himself.

He started getting messages before he was even done setting up his profile, and a lot of them were pretty sexually explicit in nature, through no prompting of his own.

I got ... multiple guys sending me messages asking me to watch them cam, or meeting up with them within the hour, or talk with them on the phone or cyber. I would say no and they usually didn't take it too well.

Gross! He continued:

At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours), the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating. Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I could reply to even one asking why I wasn't responding and what was wrong. Guys would become hostile when I told them I wasn't interested in NSA sex, or guys that had started normal and nice quickly turned the conversation into something explicitly sexual in nature. Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn't want to.

So what did OKCThrowaway22221 conclude? He had to delete the account after only two hours. It was just too much to process. He said:

I would be lying if I said it didn't get to me ... I came away thinking that women have it so much harder than guys do when it comes to that kind of stuff.

Word. I recently entered the online dating world, and I’ve gotten some pretty interesting messages. One guy said I looked “yummy.” Another asked if redheads really know how to do it better. My favorite one of the moment is the simple “your hot,” both for its directness and bad grammar.

Now to be fair, I’ve gone back and forth with some guys that seem to be genuinely decent. But it seems like for every “normal” guy message I get, there are 10 that make me think to myself -- are there really girls that like this??

Who do you think has a harder time navigating the online dating world: Men or women?

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nekoy... nekoyukidoll

well. OKcupid is the scorge of the online dating world so this doesn't shock me

Fondue Fondue

The kind of responses you get are somewhat dependent upon which website you're using.  I had nothing like that on Match (the site I was using when I met my husband 9 years ago).

junecat junecat

A guy friend of mine accidentally got on (thought it was and was bombarded by women who fell in love with him within three or four conversations, wanted to have his baby, then wanted him to wire them money so they could come visit him. He found it amusing and dragged them on a bit, but it's scary to think how many older, lonely guys there are out there that would fall for that. I don't think either sex has it easier when it comes to finding the right one.

Skyla... SkylarsMama610

You're going to find that on pretty much any dating site.  It's a matter of weeding through the assholes (not just men, but women too) to find the nice, genuine ones.  I met a guy on OKC three years ago, and we just got married 2 weeks ago.  I met a lot of creeps along the way, but you're going to find that anywhere.

BatMom. BatMom.

Kudos to that guy for realizing what females deal with. We definitely have it harder, because so many males think we basically HAVE TO supply them with pictures they can get off to. It's degrading and annoying.

Reh2002 Reh2002

Different sex, different struggles. I'm glad this guy got the point, and is telling others. 

No one's shitty experiences should be denied. It is hard to be ignored, and feel unwanted. Fortunately for the guys, they can fix this problem for themselves: come down hard on the sexual harassers in your community, and women will be more friendly and open as they have less and less to worry about.

Cari Poissant

I didnt even last a week on the weirdos scared the crap out of me.

nonmember avatar Lovejoy

Women do have it far easier on dating sites, even easier than they do in real life. All you have to do is read your messages. Anyway this sounds like a made up story to me. Most dating sites have all kinds of filters you can put on the messages you'll receive, some sites will flat out ban any guys who makes a lewd comment. Even free sites like POF have them, so I don't know what this guy was complaining about.

Erin Butcher

I met my husband online, but let me tell was not an easy process.  And my experience was just like the author's.  For every seemingly "nice" guy that messaged me, there were a dozen more messages that didn't beat around the bush about what they were REALLY after.  I even had one guy message me the exact same (incredibly explicit) message 3 different times, after I told him I wasn't interested after the first time.  He said he forgot he had already messaged me, which meant that the message he sent was a cookie cutter one that he had saved.  NOT very flattering.  LOL.  On dating sites, you gotta be willing to wade through the crap if you are wanting a real relationship.

jessi... jessicasmom1

women do have it easier ... on those sites more men than women

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