3 Things Guaranteed to Keep You Happily Married

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coupleThere is a reason we are always in awe of couples that have been wed 10 years or more. Anyone who is married knows how hard it is to stay that way. After all, the divorce rate in this country is out of control. So everyone is desperate to know, what is the secret to a successful marriage? The answers that usually pop up: honesty, communication, have a happy attitude, show affection. All important things, to be sure. But there are a few relationship-saving tricks missing from that list. Check out the 3 things you need for a truly happy, long-lasting union.

1. Get tipsy together. It may sound counter-intuitive, but scientists now say getting tipsy together could be the glue to keeping your marriage intact. According to a new study, couples who enjoy getting drunk together have a better chance of surviving. Though, it should be noted, they have to be on the same page when it comes to how much and how often. Someone who likes getting toasted every night paired with the once-a-week boozer are doomed. So overall compatibility still comes into play: it's just a good sign if you have the same drinking habits.

2. Sexual evolution. Decades in the missionary position just won't do. Sure, you may not have had to do much to keep the heat in the beginning, but as your relationship grows and changes, so must the sex. That's not to say you have to go full-on Fifty Shades of Grey (though here's a guide on how to turn vanilla sex into a BDSM dream if that is your thing). But you have to break out of the mold to keep things interesting for the both of you.

3. Hire a cleaning lady. Most wives' biggest complaint: how little their husbands do around the house. It's a problem that often starts way before kids come into the picture. It's as though in their minds, getting married meant no more chores, even if they used to clean when they were single. A cleaning lady can save you from a lot of resentment. If you can swing the service once a week, that's awesome, but even having someone come in once or twice a month will be a big help.

What are other things that can keep a marriage happy?

 

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teddy... teddysmama09

Ummmm.....I'm all for having a glass of wine with my hubby and having some fun "couple time" but seriously, if that's all you've got, that's not going to guarantee a happy marriage. These are fun little fringes that add some spice to an already stable marriage, but if your marriage is on the rocks, getting drunk and having creative sex is not going to all of a sudden solve your marital problems. 

miche... micheledo

Ummm.


I was expecting a different list, I guess.


This is C.R.A.Z.Y.


While they might keep you happy in marriage they certainly aren't necessary.  (My husband and I have never even had a sip!)

nonmember avatar Lily

I beg to differ... these aren't bad, but here are my three things:

1) Marry your best friend. Treat them everyday as you would your best friend.
2) Make each other your priority... even when you have children. This does not mean you should neglect your children; it means not letting your changing family dynamic change your closeness or relationship in a negative way.
3) Realize that your physical attraction to each other will change, because looks and pheromones fade. Luckily, your ability to converse does not.

nonmember avatar Shannon

I like lily'a advice way more than the article! Thanks for it, lily!!

nonmember avatar Sarah

These are a joke.

Angie... AngieHayes

I have thought about a house cleaner, and I think after I have my baby, I am going to enlist in one!

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