Kailyn Lowry Makes a Major Relationship Decision That Some Women Dread

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Kailyn Lowry & Javi Marroquin's wedding bandsA little sappy happy news on the Teen Mom front today to take us away from the hype that is Jenelle Evans second pregnancy: Kailyn Lowry has officially taken husband Javi Marroquin's last name. Well, on Twitter anyway. Yup, the Teen Mom 2 star has changed her Twitter handle to Kailyn Lowry-Marroquin.

Granted, Kailyn may have actually taken Javi's name a year ago legally when the two got married. Regardless, it's not always an easy decision for a lady to make the switch.

It's a choice that some people believe isn't really a choice at all. When you tie the knot with someone, it used to just be assumed that the lady would take her husband's last name. But these days? It feels like more and more women are sticking to the name they've always known. The name that stuck with them through elementary school all the way through college. The name that's been passed down through generations of family members.

I understand why for some, it's not an inevitable, easy choice. It's about identity. If a woman takes her husband's last name, perhaps she feels like she's losing a part of herself. The way I see it, though, it's as if when two people get married -- they come together as one loving unit. Although I'm nowhere near marriage, I know that I'll take my husband's name. To me, that feels like part of the deal. When the time is right and I believe in our love, I'll want to do that for him. At least that's what I think.

But, then again, I won't really know until the time to make the decision comes. Kudos to Kailyn, Javi, and their adorable growing family.

Do you think a woman should take her husband's last name?

 

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T.M. T.M.

I don't think a woman should have to take her husband's last name. I gladly took my first husband's last name, but went back to my maiden name after the divorce. After I married my second husband I was torn. I had fought so hard to be me again after my divorce that I felt like loosing a part of me by taking his last name. I shed real tears over this dilemma. I eventually broke down and hyphenated my name. About a year later, I finally changed my last name on everything. :-)

nonmember avatar evs

Generations of MALE family members. So you're trading one man's name for another. Change your name, keep it, hyphenate it, make a whole NEW last name...whatever works for you and yours...

nonmember avatar Anowscara

I have lots of friends who have come up with great, creative ways to make a family identity without always just having the wife take his last name. While I went traditional, I never assume other women did and ask what their last name is. I find it neat to see what people come up with!

easto... eastonbennett

If she wants to. It's a personal decision that should be left to the woman (and definitely a conversation with her spouse).

Sarah Peavey

I'm no where near marriage. I've been close. I highly doubt I will take someone's last name. Many people in my family have been divorced but my parents have been married 27 years. Maybe because I'm angsty, maybe because I have no faith, for now I'm KEEPING my last name (when i get married i'm not changing it) because the only man I can depend on is my daddy.

Annette Morales

no if we dont want to thats ok

nonmember avatar Jessica hope

I married a my wife on my 23rd birthday. Although we are a lesbian couple, I took my wife's last name.

Austi... Austinsmommy12

I did...somewhat. I changed my license, address, hospital info, etc. but not SS card, credit cards, or checking account. I legally have his name on file in the courthouse, but most of my stuff still has my maiden name. Our children however, have his. I wouldn't hyphenate a baby's last name.

nonmember avatar allmal

To each is their own, but when my hubby and I got married I was very excited to take his last name. I didnt see it as losing my identity at all. I saw it as embracing a new chapter in my life with the person who has my heart. 7 strong years later we have two beautiful children and they are at the age of learning our names for emergencies and our last name. For them it is easy that we all share the same last name and they find it fun. God forbid somewhere down the line we were to ever get a divorce (we believe in marriage for life), I am comfortable enough with myself to keep his last name. It has become a part of me and I love that :)

nonmember avatar me

I see it as becoming a family really. Its not just a last name, its a family name. When you were a child, you were part of your parents family, and had their name, now youre starting your own family and to me it makes most sense to all go by the same last/family name. It looks funny when the mom has a different name from the kids or husband. I dont really care how you come to the last name, taking his, both hyphenating, making a new one... but a family should have a family name. I was happy to take his. No drama there. If thats youre biggest problem, your last name, then consider yourself very blessed

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