Sex Confession: Wife Uses Sex to Get What She Wants From Husband

Say What!? 19

kissing couple"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Sometimes we do things to get things. Things like work extra hours to make extra money, or even do a babysitting trade with a friend so she watches your kid one day in order to run errands and the favor is returned another day so you can do the same. Jessica* is a 30-something mom of one who lives by that kind of rule. But she uses sex to get what she wants from her husband. She admits she doesn't even enjoy it that much, but she knows he loves it and it helps her get some extra spending money or have her way in a disagreement. I'll let Jessica explain the rest.

My husband Kevin* and I have a very active sex life mostly because I have sex with him to get what I want. It feels so liberating to admit that. It's the truth. I'm not ashamed. Okay, maybe a little because Jessica and Kevin aren't our real names. I thought every wife did this sex for whatever thing but when I told one of my friends she thought it wasn't very nice. So I stopped talking to her or anyone about it.

Kevin and I butt heads on a lot of stuff. Parenting stuff. Where to put stuff in the house kind of stuff. How to remodel the bathroom we've been working on forever kind of stuff. Spendy kind of stuff. And one day a couple of years ago I realized that if I just gave him a blowjob or sex he would magically agree to whatever it was I wanted. If I wanted the bathroom to be painted pink, a little sex and asking him in the afterglow and the bathroom was pink! If I wanted to buy those expensive boots that I really didn't need, all I had to do was ask him after an orgasm. It seemed to work every time. Sometimes we even have sex when I don't want something.

Of course I spaced all this out and didn't bombard him with requests after sex every single day. It was more of a few times a month occurrence and from how things are going ... we're both VERY happy about this situation. I'm not sure he knows exactly but it's working for us. I give him what he wants so I get what I want.

What do you think of this confession? Have you ever had sex with your husband in order to get something?

*Names have been changed.

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Elaine Cox

so she is pretty much like ALMOST every other wife in america

adamat34 adamat34

Exactamundo Elaine.......this isnt something revolutionary.....we have all done this.

nonmember avatar vanessa h

Most of the time my husband knows going into it that is what is happening. I ask for something, he says no, I offer sex, and he changes his mind. Nothing new.

Happy... Happydad73

So on the flip side of this, it sounds like its ok for us husbands to refuse to do what you want unless we get sex.Thanks for clearing that up.

nonmember avatar LordK

HAHAHA like this is news at all?! All women use sex or the promise of sex to extort things from men! Why is this even worthy of mention when this has been the case in all of human history???? Hell, even antropoid ape females do the same damn thing LMAO!!

Paws84 Paws84

Wow. I thought sex between a married couple was supposed to mean something. Why get married if you'd rather just be a prostitute? My definition of a prostitute is performing sexual acts to get money. I actually enjoy having sex with my husband. If I want a pair of shoes or whatever, the last place I'm going to ask him is in the bedroom. I'm all for being a slut in the bedroom for my husband, but not in the way you ladies are talking about. And Happydad73 is right. Flip it the other way around, and your husband has every right to expect sex or a blowjob if you want something.

nonmember avatar Brad

So then why should men even bother getting married? In the long run, it would probably be cheaper just hiring an escort, or if you line in Nevada just go to some brothel.

nonmember avatar Alex

Wow this woman is really something. I read a lot of stories like this and I have to say it makes being single look better and better. I'm not really sure why a lot of men get married. Seems more like prison sentence to me. Add to this the fact that women can just divorce at the drop of a hat and make out like a bandit.

nonmember avatar Lordk

Brad, Alex, we men should NEVER get married today. Modern marriage is now nothing more than a socialist construct to transfer a man's wealth to women, period. Welcome to the world feminists created for us. Be a man, refuse to be a husband! If she ain't happy enough being your girlfriend then she sure don't deserve to have you as a husband.

wamom223 wamom223

Wow.  I'm shocked.  I have never in the 14 years been with my man ever had sex because I wanted something.  And now I'm thinking about how I have a better sex life than any woman I know.  I just feel like anything I wouldn't appreciate him doing to me is something I don't want to do to him.  I would be really hurt to know he used that time to get some artificial thing he wants.  And I agree with Happydad and Paws about the double standard, I bet none of you woman looked at it that way.  



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