"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Sometimes we do things to get things. Things like work extra hours to make extra money, or even do a babysitting trade with a friend so she watches your kid one day in order to run errands and the favor is returned another day so you can do the same. Jessica* is a 30-something mom of one who lives by that kind of rule. But she uses sex to get what she wants from her husband. She admits she doesn't even enjoy it that much, but she knows he loves it and it helps her get some extra spending money or have her way in a disagreement. I'll let Jessica explain the rest.
My husband Kevin* and I have a very active sex life mostly because I have sex with him to get what I want. It feels so liberating to admit that. It's the truth. I'm not ashamed. Okay, maybe a little because Jessica and Kevin aren't our real names. I thought every wife did this sex for whatever thing but when I told one of my friends she thought it wasn't very nice. So I stopped talking to her or anyone about it.
Kevin and I butt heads on a lot of stuff. Parenting stuff. Where to put stuff in the house kind of stuff. How to remodel the bathroom we've been working on forever kind of stuff. Spendy kind of stuff. And one day a couple of years ago I realized that if I just gave him a blowjob or sex he would magically agree to whatever it was I wanted. If I wanted the bathroom to be painted pink, a little sex and asking him in the afterglow and the bathroom was pink! If I wanted to buy those expensive boots that I really didn't need, all I had to do was ask him after an orgasm. It seemed to work every time. Sometimes we even have sex when I don't want something.
Of course I spaced all this out and didn't bombard him with requests after sex every single day. It was more of a few times a month occurrence and from how things are going ... we're both VERY happy about this situation. I'm not sure he knows exactly but it's working for us. I give him what he wants so I get what I want.
What do you think of this confession? Have you ever had sex with your husband in order to get something?
*Names have been changed.
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