Man Hates Strong, Confident Women Because They're 'Repellent'


Sometimes I read things on the Internet that make me question my faith in humanity. Because of people like this douche that write things called The Case Against Female Self-Esteem. If he really believes what he says, then he’s a terrible person, and if he’s putting it out there just for sensationalism, then he’s still a terrible person.

Where to begin? It’s over 2,000 words of the most disgusting anti-female drivel I’ve ever read. He starts the whole thing by declaring his love for insecure women, and when a girl brags about her confidence or strength, his dick deflates “like a punctured tire.” Yeah, all two inches of it, I bet.

Really, you should take a few minutes and read the whole thing, but if you can’t stomach it, here are some of the highlights.

“Most girls have done nothing to deserve self-esteem … In the world of men, respect -- and by extension self-esteem -- is based on actually achieving something of worth or having some kind of skill or talent ... Women claim they want equal rights as men, but they don’t want equal responsibilities. As such, they demand respect not based on their merit as people, but for merely continuing to breathe. Most girls’ so-called achievements, the ones they take pride in, are complete jokes.”

I don’t know any women like that, sorry. I know a lot of women that work their asses off, are tremendously talented, earn the respect of their peers, and in my demographic, they do it with a baby on their hip.

“Part of our identity as men based in women needing us, if not necessarily in a material sense, then in an emotional one, though material and emotional vulnerability often go hand in hand … Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.”

Someone has confused insecurity with vulnerability. It actually takes a tremendous amount of strength and courage to be truly vulnerable. He doesn’t want vulnerability, he wants insecurity and dependence so he can dominate and control her. A strong woman wouldn’t put up with this guy’s bass-ackwards thinking on gender roles.

“Women don’t want to have high self-esteem. This is the kicker; in their bones, girls know that their toxic, feminist you-go-grrl ideology is a lie. Why do you think the average urban slut machine is downing enough Prozac to poison the water supply? Pharmacological assistance is the only way she can make it through her day without slitting her wrists, or alternately realizing that her life is a complete lie.”

Maybe some women take anti-depressants because pissants like this think that confident women are just “urban slut machines.” I definitely feel like I could use a Xanax right about now.

“At the end of the day, there are no Strong, Independent Women™. There are only shrews pleading for a taming. All the posturing, the pill-popping, the whining and demands for “equality”; they’re a cry for help. Girls don’t want the six-figure cubicle job, the shiny Brooklyn 2BR, the master’s degree, the sexual liberation, none of it. They want to be collectively led back to the kitchen, told to make a nice big tuna sandwich with extra mayo and lettuce, then swatted on the ass as we walk out the door.”

No. Words.

On a scale of one to eleven, how big of a chauvinist a-hole is this guy in your book?


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Freela Freela

I bet this guy's dating life is very, VERY lonely... and I feel sorry for whatever poor, downtrodden woman he manages to end up with.  If he ever does, of course.  Men should be furious at him, it's guys like this who give other guys a bad name!

nekoy... nekoyukidoll

Holy rusted metal, this guy sounds like my ex. He's so threatened by intelligent, string women that he resorts to attacking them on a personal level and how woen are "too emotional" to have conversations. He's a level fifteen douchebag.

nonmember avatar Sirena

See folks, THIS is why we need to bring back mental institutions. This Ariel-Castro-in- the-making is roaming the streets. Just look at all the comments on his "essay" a bunch of sick fucks.

flood... flood1971

Sounds like a potential rapist in the making. A 'swat on the Ass'?! What's next, tying her up and 'dominating' her cause that's all she wants? My advice to him- this is why they make blowup dolls. Out of plastic. They don't have an opinion. No actual real human female could tolerate that for a New York minute. I even feel bad for the doll. They don't make sandwiches. On her first night she ll get the beating of her plastic life. I shudder at his existence.

Taisie Taisie

What a douchebag!

nonmember avatar Jam

His mom must be so proud to have raised such a such macho man!

I bet he likes it in the @$$.

BGarcel BGarcel

There's nothing wrong with being swatted on the ass as your sexy husband walks by. That being said though this guy is sad.

nonmember avatar Zak

...and the hypocrisy is the fact that YOU write for a site here that has posted some of the most disrespectful,male-bashing-drivel online this side of Huff Post,so go figure.

nekoy... nekoyukidoll

I just checked out his blog and I'm raising him to a level 50 douche.

LAHnT... LAHnTAH0812

did you read this blog by the same guy?!?!??!

please tell me this is satire!!!!!

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