Sex Confession: Husband Is Obsessed With Giving Wife Love Bites

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bite me"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Corey* has been married for four years to Steven* -- the couple has a 1-year-old daughter and Steven's mom lives with them. Things have been great, Corey says, but her husband has recently wanted to get kinky in a way they haven't really before. He's really into biting. And she likes it. But it's not the biting that is concerning her, it's the marks those bites make particularly if they are on her neck. Yes, she's worried about hickeys mostly because her mother-in-law is always around. I'll let Corey explain more. 

We have a household that works well. Steven's mom lives mainly downstairs but of course she's often with us and helping take care of our daughter when we have to work. We all respect each other's privacy -- so no issue there. The issue that has recently presented itself is that Steven loves giving me hickey. Love bites, he calls them. All over my body. That's fine -- I love it. But I'm so worried about him marking up my neck and his mom is going to see. I'm also worried about my job seeing, people in the grocery store -- I just don't want these love bites to be seen!

I've asked Steven to be more mindful. But he gets carried away. I can put makeup on them but it doesn't always last and it's annoying to have to constantly worry about if there is a mark showing. I'm all for public displays, but this is too much. It has started to make me freak out whenever Steven kisses me on the neck. I jump. And it's weird because I do it now all the time. Even if he's just coming up behind me to kiss me on the neck -- without biting -- while I'm doing the dishes or cooking or whatever.

He doesn't get why I'm so worried about it. And I don't want to fight with him over it, but I just want him to stop marking up my neck. Why can't this man get that through his thick head? I kid. I love him. I love the nibbles. But ... it's kind of embarrassing when they show.

What do you think? Should she be embarrassed? Should her husband try to tone it down?


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nonmember avatar FarmersWife

Totally his way of trying to "mark" you as his. Probably totally subconscious but he wants the marks seen.... I think an honest conversation that you don't like how it looks, reassure him that he's yours, and suggest a nice heart shaped necklace to mark his turf!! Diamonds a plus! :)

Aside, I think it's strange how some people think its unacceptable. I thought it was unacceptable until I saw hickeys on a lot of wives in the Mennonite community. I asked some friends and its totally acceptable/ignored among married couples. Now I don't mind at all. I'm in a committed relationship... And if the kid in my arms isn't making it obvious i have a sex life I don't know what is lol

BGarcel BGarcel

I dont think its about marking you or anything. I do the same to my husband but I dont do it to mark him as mine. No one can tell from whom those marks originated. And few can only tell that they are hickies in the first place.

He isnt embarassed and I dont think this woman should be either. But, a compromise I think can work here. Limit the bites to the nighttime giving her skin a bitof time to heal.

hello... hellokd87

My sweet pea does it as a way of "marking" cos when I cover it up he'll "jokingly" as who i'm hiding it from. Uh, HUMAN RESOURCES maybe!! At one job they were so anal about it I got an email from my temp agency questioning me about it. Then again they asked me not to wear perfume & to not wear "flashy" heels which pissed me off & I ended up quitting anyway. Back to the subject, she should tell him "Honey, I love you & what you do to me. You're "bites" drive me wild, but the thought of someone like your mother seeing it is driving me crazy as well. And not in a good way." That's ulimately what I had to tell my sweetheart.

Todd Vrancic

Often, if you are in a job where you deal with the public, they will make you cover those marks.  If make-up fades, they will make you put a band-aid over it.  It's stupid if you ask me, putting band-aids over hickeys just draws more attention to them.

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