It's pretty brave, you have to give her that.
In the October issue of Ladies' Home Journal, Lee Woodruff, wife of ABC News' Bob Woodruff and a contributor to CBS This Morning, lifts the veil on one of the most taboo subjects: sex and married life.
Not passionate, just-married life or even explosively unhappily married life.
But regular married life where you've been together for decades. You brush your teeth next to each other. You leave the door open while going to the bathroom a la that Judd Apatow film. That kind.
So after 25 years of marriage and 4 kids, Lee candidly writes that at this point, she'd rather cuddle up with her body pillow.
Reading it, I was riveted. Is this normal? Or "normal"?
I feel like I used to have a handle on what most of my friends' sex lives were like. We all talked about it. It was fun.
Then kids came and it's like a wall came down. Aside from the occasional wisecracks about husbands who've lost their mojo or how crowded their bed is because their kids are always in it, I have no clue whether people are actually having sex or not.
Or whether they even want to.
So it was interesting to read Lee's column mainly because her admission came with the argument that her situation is not a pathology.
"Marriages have seasons," she writes. "And while there's something sexy about conjuring up the old us, there's a peace in accepting that we are past the 'skyrockets in flight' period."
And she isn't saying she's "giving up" either. Her point is that it's always changing.
"I may not be as frisky as I used to be, and he may wish that I'd initiate things more often," she says, "but at our core we are still determined to make it better."
Do you talk to your friends about your sex life?
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