25 Moments Real Men & Women Knew They'd Found Their Spouse

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When it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone, it's a serious decision. So it's interesting how most of us make it. There seems to just come a moment when you suddenly "know" that this is the person you want to marry. Maybe you've only been dating five minutes (as happened to one woman), maybe for five years, but at some point, some kind of magic chemistry happens and you think, "This is the person I want to spend eternity with!!" Here are 25 moments real people realized they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with that special man or woman.

1. I knew I'd marry him when we made it through six months of me studying abroad. He came to visit me in London after five months and we still were ridiculously into each other ... No love lost at all -- if anything our love was stronger.

2. We had only been dating like a month and met in Chicago for the weekend. Went to the hotel concierge to make dinner reservations, and the dude called me "Mrs. Fischer." I was mortified, but he didn't even blink -- and actually got a kick out of it. That's when I knew he was super serious. [Thanks Mary Fischer, in case the name didn't give it away!]

3. We were at karaoke and he twirled me around to some song and said, "This is the song we’ll dance to at our wedding." I can’t even remember the song but I married him.

4. He took me for a ride on his motorcycle.

5. I knew just about five minutes after our lunch together after re-meeting each other -- we knew one another in elementary school.

6. I knew he was "The One" when he asked me how my day was and really wanted to know. He loved hearing about my day. My other boyfriends were entirely too self-obsessed to even care.

7. I knew I'd marry her when I realized there was more valuable stuff in our relationship than annoying stuff. And there was some annoying stuff!

8. When I sent him a short story I'd written and he actually wrote back a very thoughtful analysis of it.

9. He said he'd "eat bees" for me.

10. I knew I'd marry him when we sat and talked one day and I realized that he had the same dysfunctional past as I did. For once I had met someone who understood my emotions, my fears, my wants, wishes, and dreams. He knew what it was like to fight to make your life better in a world and a lifetime that had been so dysfunctional on so many levels. He is and always will be my best friend.

11. When he cleaned his bathtub meticulously so that I could soak in a hot bath after I ran the NYC marathon. This is a man who NEVER cleans anything EVER!

12. When we spent two weeks summer road-tripping and tenting it through Canada and down to Washington, D.C., and back to Michigan (including thunderstorms, car problems, and trying to get out of impossible 4th of July crowds in record heat). We never ran out of things to talk about or having fun!

13. He crouched down and spoke quietly to his bosses' wild toddlers who had been melting down at the office holiday party.

14. He held my hand. That one will sound sweet when I'm 92. It makes me sound just plain silly now.

15. I heard his voice on my voicemail and realized I couldn't do without that exact voice in my life.

16. He bought my son and me fishing rods and reels, as well as quietly paying our health insurance for six months in advance.

17. Here's the most unromantic response you'll receive, but a completely honest one. It was when we started to think seriously about having kids, so the kids and I would be protected financially.

18. I had a weak moment.

19. While cleaning up my vomit, he noted the presence of an olive slice and said, "You really need to chew your food better."

20. When she didn't mock me for screwing up my son's travel plans and instead helped me work out a plan to get him to a friend's wedding where he was scheduled to sing.

21. When he could bounce Smiths lyrics back to me faster and more accurately than any other bloke!

22. When, after an argument, I wanted to run out of the room like I normally did with fights, but he picked up a chair and sat down in front of me, blocking my exit. Then he said, "How can I make this better?"

23. I saw how affectionate his parents were with each other.

24. He offered to watch my cats for me while I was away. Even though he's sort of allergic.

25. She asked me.

When did you know he or she was "the one"?


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nonmember avatar Natalie

When he kissed me for the first time and my whole self felt full of butterflies. No other guy had ever made me feel that way with just a kiss and I knew I wanted to kiss him for the rest of my life!

Allison Stephanie Toth

He was playing with our now 21 year old nephew (who was 1 at the time) and I just knew he would be a great husband and father.

nonmember avatar Cathy

We met on the 16th and by the 20th he had me and my kids moved in with him. 3 years later he says my kids are his kids

nonmember avatar KLTPWT

When I met him (he was a mgr at a restaurant and I was getting an orientation as an hourly), I totally fell head over heels for him. I looked at his finger, no ring! We dated 7 months later, and about 4 months into dating, I was sitting in a Humanities class in Jr college and it just hit me that he was the one I was going to marry. We'll be married for 20 years on 9/18 and have 2 awesome boys.

Kelly N Jaymin Tognarini

When he helped me nurse my sick kitten back to good health i knew he would make a great husband n father 15 yrs later n 2 daughters n still going strong!!!

boond... boondox1980

after a hug i didnt know how i would make it without him by my side every day even though i lived next door. before the hug we where just friends



boond... boondox1980

january 23rd will be 8 years together and we have 2 boys


pinkt... pinktoenails73

We had been dating for a couple of months, we were at my families summer baseball game and I was dying for something drink. The only drink left was the one Clint had been drinking. I drank it. I NEVER EVER drink after someone...lol. I knew then he must really special. We just celebrated our 20 anniversary :)

Devyn M. Greene

I knew when he loooked at how messed up my life was, took my hand and said "We can fix this together". We had known each other for a day.

Babyb... Babybear7215

My husband and I both have been through 2 bad/ abusive/ negligent relationships before we started dating. We knew each other for 12 years and I was at the end of my previous relationship ( 8 years & 3 great kids who were all under 5) he helped me get back on my feet, find a place for us to stay and was always there for us the whole way through my divorce. He was fighting his own medical issues and sour ex's but always made time for us. Now 8 years later, we are still going strong. We regained custody of all 6 of our kids ( my 4 and his 2) and have 3 graduated from high school. I never realized just how our friendship for those 12 previous years had developed into such a close relationship till we started dating. Now, I can't sleep without him by side. :)

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