Sex Confession: Wife Counts Minutes Until Sex Is Over

Say What!? 17

clock"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Once you're married for a certain amount of years, for some your sex life could wane, maybe even get a little boring and expected. This is definitely not the case for Cara*, a 40-something mom of one who has been married to Don* for about 15 years. Cara says Don wants to have sex all the time. And sometimes she loves that fact. But other times she literally counts the minutes until sex is over because she is just doing it for him. Uh oh. I'll let Cara share the rest.

I'm just not into sex like I used to be. Once in a while I am. But most of the time I'd rather be watching television, eating chocolate, heck, I'd rather be shaving my legs and I generally hate shaving my legs but at least the end result is satisfying. Sex, on the other hand, not so satisfying most of the time. I do it to make my husband happy because I love him, but I'm not into it. I've got it down to a science how long I have to go through the motions until he's finished. Anywhere between 16 and 22 minutes in case you are wondering. I've counted.

And because of this I feel awful. Like the worst wife ever. My husband is an incredible guy. He deserves someone who wants to have sex with him all the time. But it's just not me. My sex drive isn't what it once was and I don't know how to get it back. I'm not even sure I want it back. I do enjoy sex sometimes and sometimes I don't even count the minutes until it's over. But Don wants sex all the time. Every damn day! And I compromise and give it to him about three times a week, but if it were up to me, it would be maybe three times a month.

I can't be alone here, can I? Am I just an awful wife?

What do you think of Cara's confession? Can you relate?


*Names have been changed.

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chech... chechimansmama

Your not. My husband is the same.. and i love him. He is wonderful fo me and our kids. But OMG he wants to have sex soooo late.. He is somewhat of an insomniac so he doesnt sleep until 4 or 5. And sometimes he wakes me and I embellish my satisfaction to hurry up the process... i feel bad but im sleepy! We have a 7 month old who wakes me enough through the night.

nonmember avatar MammaMia

Ahh, this takes me back. TOTALLY did this with my ex. Men are gullible!

Autum... Autumnleaves87

This is the story of my life:( husband wants to have sex every damn day and I'm just over it. I think its because he wants it so often I just get sick of it. Oh well.

nonmember avatar Lord K

Hahaha what a stupid loser man! Any dude with half brain can easily tell when the chick is just going through motions. I've had several try that with me and I kicked them to the curb.

eupeptic eupeptic

Is there anything that you can think of that would make you enjoy sex more and want to have it more often? Is there anything that your husband can think of that would make you enjoy sex more and want to have it more often? Do you talk to your husband about sex and satisfaction or not? If not, he's not going to know what he can do to improve the sex that you two have.

nonmember avatar Top Comtributor

See girls, now you got 'Lord K' all defensive!! Lol Men like to below ice they are sex experts and can tell the difference between being wanted and when the woman is faking. They can't! All their blood is in their other head! Lol

nonmember avatar Yogagurl

I don't think that is bad at all! I think wanting sex every day diminishes it's specialness and naturally it becoems routine. I prefer it once a week or maybe twice...that way you really feel it and appreciate it and it's more fun...because it's more special. Feeling like you have to do it so much, every day, I feel's a drag.

nonmember avatar zzzzzzzzzz

Wonder what 'CARA' looks like? Probably pushing 200lbs and her dude doesn't bother trying because its all he can do not to puke when he's doing her.
CARA = future lesbian.

nonmember avatar Common.Sense

Sounds like a good reason to open up your marriage! If sex is tedious and unpleasant, and you don't care about it, why can't your poor husband do this tedious, unpleasant thing you don't care about with somebody ELSE? It would take the pressure off you to perform constantly!

Mason... MasonsMom503

Common.sense really? That's just a recipe for jealousy.

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