"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Once you're married for a certain amount of years, for some your sex life could wane, maybe even get a little boring and expected. This is definitely not the case for Cara*, a 40-something mom of one who has been married to Don* for about 15 years. Cara says Don wants to have sex all the time. And sometimes she loves that fact. But other times she literally counts the minutes until sex is over because she is just doing it for him. Uh oh. I'll let Cara share the rest.
I'm just not into sex like I used to be. Once in a while I am. But most of the time I'd rather be watching television, eating chocolate, heck, I'd rather be shaving my legs and I generally hate shaving my legs but at least the end result is satisfying. Sex, on the other hand, not so satisfying most of the time. I do it to make my husband happy because I love him, but I'm not into it. I've got it down to a science how long I have to go through the motions until he's finished. Anywhere between 16 and 22 minutes in case you are wondering. I've counted.
And because of this I feel awful. Like the worst wife ever. My husband is an incredible guy. He deserves someone who wants to have sex with him all the time. But it's just not me. My sex drive isn't what it once was and I don't know how to get it back. I'm not even sure I want it back. I do enjoy sex sometimes and sometimes I don't even count the minutes until it's over. But Don wants sex all the time. Every damn day! And I compromise and give it to him about three times a week, but if it were up to me, it would be maybe three times a month.
I can't be alone here, can I? Am I just an awful wife?
What do you think of Cara's confession? Can you relate?
*Names have been changed.
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