"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Once you're married for a certain amount of years, for some your sex life could wane, maybe even get a little boring and expected. This is definitely not the case for Cara*, a 40-something mom of two, who has just unleashed her inner sex kitten. Her husband Roger* is certainly not complaining. It all started one night recently when both kids were away at camp and they found themselves in an empty house with a bottle of wine. I'll let Cara take it from here.
I've always thought that Roger and I had a great sex life. We did, and we do. I've always been satisfied. But we've been together for over 10 years and we've probably done it all a few times and nothing could really shock us or make us have that new relationship feeling. Or so I thought. I'm not sure what's going on with me or us but things are crazy good.
About a month or so ago, Roger and I had a bottle of wine without eating any dinner while the kids were away at camp. We had the house to ourselves and were just picking on some chips and drinking wine while trying to decide what to make for dinner. We ended up drinking more wine, not eating, and making out in the kitchen. Something felt new between us. I was sure it was the wine since I rarely drink. But that newness carried on to the next week and the next even without me having a sip. That night we tried some out of the norm stuff. He went down on me for longer than he usually does. He even put a finger in my butt. Things we hadn't done in a really, really long time and with a focus that we were setting time aside just for us. We had music on, lit candles ... all that romantic stuff that sort of went by the wayside long ago.
That night changed everything. I'm wearing lingerie now ... again. We make more time for each other and for making love. We are trying things I never thought I'd try. I love it. I need it. I feel sexually energized and amazing. So does Roger. And it's obviously brought us closer. We are more intimate and loving to each other even when we are not having sex. It's exactly what our marriage needed -- exactly what we both needed.
Can you relate to Cara?
*Names have been changed.
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I create a special savings account
I put a little away at a time
I cut corners until I can afford it
Save? Who has money to save?
I plan to put it on my credit card and love the benefits of the reward program