Amanda Seyfried's Ultra Sexy Dating Confession Is a Rule All Women Should Live By

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amanda seyfried cover of elle august 2013Amanda Seyfried is off and running with press for Lovelace, the upcoming biopic in which she portrays Deep Throat adult film star Linda Lovelace, and not at all surprisingly, she's been a bit more candid. For instance, in her interview with ELLE for their August issue, Amanda admittied she's still very close friends with most recent ex-boyfriend Dominic Cooper, and she's currently into a guy she pictures as the father of her children.

Not quite sure how this came up, but by far her BEST confession was that every guy she's dated, she's "been sexually attracted to immediately." She asserts, "Sparks don't grow -- your vagina doesn't become more inclined to wanting someone just because you're around them." HA! Well-put, woman!

I couldn't agree more with Amanda. Unfortunately, we too often we get hung up on one or the other ... Either the guy has to be attractive and an intellectual and/or emotional connection isn't necessarily top priority OR we think we can cultivate a sexual spark over time if the relationship seems to feel right on paper (e.g. you share common interests and the conversation flows). But it doesn't work that way. You've gotta have physical sparks and a mental connection. And I totally believe that's something you really can and, beyond that, must feel undeniably for it to be right. 

In my single days, I did a lot of trying to talk myself into being sexually attracted to really wonderful, nice, on-paper-boyfriend-material guys. I really did think sparks would grow, and sometimes, they did, but ultimately, they weren't the kind of sparks that sustain a relationship. When I met my husband, I totally experienced what Amanda's talking about. There was NO question we were into one another physically -- and mentally, emotionally, the whole package. The multi-dimensional connection was a no-brainer, and very much why we're now Mr. and Mrs.

It may sound like a tall order, but when you meet the right person, it all comes together. Sounds like Amanda may still be searching for her whole package, but at least she knows the best way to find him.

Do you agree with Amanda?


Image via ELLE

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cleig... cleigh717

Yes I can relate. Multidimensional pafkage from day 1 with my hubby.

AJ-47 AJ-47

I love her. She's mine. lol. But seriously, that's awesome.

nonmember avatar Rach

That's a cute romantic idea, but in real life, I need someone who isn't an ass hole. The sexual attraction is not important.

nonmember avatar mary1

Totally agree with Amanda. There are lots of great guys out there and life is too short to be with one that you have no attraction to.

Cel7777 Cel7777

Rach, why would someone you were sexually attracted to have to be an asshole? Of course sexual attraction is important...that doesn't mean that you should only date guys that are movie-star hot of course, but you should at least be sexually excited by your partner.t

I do disagree with Amanda on the point that sexual attraction can't grow over time. My husband and I were friends for a long time before we started dating, he had pursued me for a long time but I wasn't particularly interested in him as more than a friend. I actually did think he was cute but I didn't have the overwhelming urge to rip his clothes off everytime I saw him.

Now, 6+ years later, I am extremely attracted to him. I think my tastes developed and changed as I matured. So it is certainly possible.


lkm091 lkm091

yea yea yea she had an interview...I can't get over the cover photo!  She is clearly photoshopped from her bent arm, down!  That looks awful!

nonmember avatar Jeff H.

The hypocrisy of women is endless. Men have been called superficial by women for pursuing women they feel a physical connection with. Turns out women are the same except they deny it.

momma... mommaleach

wow... is it me, or does her head look too big in that picture?!

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