Amanda Seyfried is off and running with press for Lovelace, the upcoming biopic in which she portrays Deep Throat adult film star Linda Lovelace, and not at all surprisingly, she's been a bit more candid. For instance, in her interview with ELLE for their August issue, Amanda admittied she's still very close friends with most recent ex-boyfriend Dominic Cooper, and she's currently into a guy she pictures as the father of her children.
Not quite sure how this came up, but by far her BEST confession was that every guy she's dated, she's "been sexually attracted to immediately." She asserts, "Sparks don't grow -- your vagina doesn't become more inclined to wanting someone just because you're around them." HA! Well-put, woman!
I couldn't agree more with Amanda. Unfortunately, we too often we get hung up on one or the other ... Either the guy has to be attractive and an intellectual and/or emotional connection isn't necessarily top priority OR we think we can cultivate a sexual spark over time if the relationship seems to feel right on paper (e.g. you share common interests and the conversation flows). But it doesn't work that way. You've gotta have physical sparks and a mental connection. And I totally believe that's something you really can and, beyond that, must feel undeniably for it to be right.
In my single days, I did a lot of trying to talk myself into being sexually attracted to really wonderful, nice, on-paper-boyfriend-material guys. I really did think sparks would grow, and sometimes, they did, but ultimately, they weren't the kind of sparks that sustain a relationship. When I met my husband, I totally experienced what Amanda's talking about. There was NO question we were into one another physically -- and mentally, emotionally, the whole package. The multi-dimensional connection was a no-brainer, and very much why we're now Mr. and Mrs.
It may sound like a tall order, but when you meet the right person, it all comes together. Sounds like Amanda may still be searching for her whole package, but at least she knows the best way to find him.
Do you agree with Amanda?
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