10 Things Never to Say to a Single Girl

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single girlQuestion for you: What's worse than being single when all your friends are in committed relationships? Answer: NOTHING. That was me about a year ago, and let me tell you, it was an experience. Don't get me wrong, I did actually enjoy being single at times. Hell, I was an independent woman, Beyonce-style. But it was those incredibly rude comments I got from others for not having a "plus one" that really got to me. Yeah, that's when being the cheese standing alone started to suck.

Check out the 10 things you should never, ever say to a single girl.

1. Are you sure you're looking in the right places? Hmm, well it is possible there was a typo in my Single Man Map that I was given.

2. If you just put yourself out there ... Ah yes, thank you for the most vague piece of advice. I will make sure to start putting myself out there, whatever that means, and get back to you with my results.

3. How are you still single? I know this one is supposed to be a compliment (my current boyfriend actually asked me this on our first date). However, it just makes us start to dig a little deeper into why we may be single and, uh, you don't want to open that can of worms.

4. Guys are probably too intimidated to talk to you. Good point, I'll take off my single man shield before going out from now on.

5. You could have any guy you want. I know, RIGHT? I'm sooooo awesome. Can somebody please page Bradley Cooper for me?

6. Don't worry, he's out there. OH HAPPY DAY! I thought I was doomed for all eternity.

7. It's going to be all couples -- are you sure you want to come? It's crazy, I know, but even though I'm single, I'm still pretty sure I can co-exist with other humans regardless of their marital status.

8. You're being a little picky. And you're being a little annoying.

9. I'd give anything to have my single years back. Cry me a diamond ring river.

10. It'll happen when you least expect it. Well, what if I'm not expecting it right now? Will it happen? How about NOW?

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femal... femaleMIKE

number 10 is a cliche to any event.

Maria Grant

Oh, oh this list of gems need to be handed out at every family/church/group gathering. People are so insensitive!

MrsCo... MrsCoulter

My 23 year old daughter never dated anyone and it is all her choice and I support her. She is beautiful and very smart, social and classy.  She has chosen to wait to date so she can finish college at 18 and start a business.  She gets all of these comments and some rude people even think there is a medical issue with her.  It makes people uncomfortable to know that she is not dating, however those same poeple are OK with girls who have a new boyfriend "the one" every two months.  Although she is open to the idea now. It is just hard for someone like her to plan on going out specifically to meet a man; she finds it demeaning. Also, where can she find a good and respectful man? Men nowadays have been trained by loose women and most expect too much on their first dates. Women's bodies are not worth one mediocre dinner. Unlike most girls, my daughter rather stay single for the rest of her life, than to marry a miserable future husband. She has the love, support and repect of her parents and younger siblings (10 and 8.) some times soon we hope she finds that "one" worthy of her, although it is also OK to be single if you are happy and comfortable with it :-)

teddy... teddysmama09

Mrs. Coulter- Wow, I really admire your daughter! I was sort of in a similar situation as your daughter at 22. I had just finished college and after a very traumatic experience (my fiance left me 3 days before our wedding) I decided to put off dating and go on a voyage of self discovery. I wanted to focus on getting my life in order so that when I did get married it would be because I wanted to, not because I had to.


I went to Europe and was having amazing experiences, but every time I called home I got the same question: "so have you met any nice young men?" It drove me NUTS! At the same time my 19 year old cousin was getting married and all I ever heard about was how wonderful it  was. My aunt even told me (after I had just finished describing a life changing trip to Paris) "don't worry, someday you'll be happy too."


About a year ago I was talking to my cousin and she told me she wishes she had the experiences I had befor getting married. I know that the years I spent embracing my singleness lead to me being a more fulfilled wife and mother.

acastle2 acastle2

After a very brief marriage I put off dating for awhile. I still don't just jump from one guy to another like a good bit of ladies I know. I had a friend make a comment once about me always being the single one and I had to remind her at least I don't date needy basket cases and have to support them financially. I personally wait a long time before striking up another relationship and it doesn't bother me to be the "single friend" because I don't have to deal with the drunk drama when we all go out.

Phyll... PhyllisGB

haha -- it's just gonna be couples....  I was invited to one of those.  It was really just 6 people, and I was good friends with one of the women.  At one point, the woman were being silly, sitting on other guys' laps (instead of their husband's) and I'm like, "So THIS is what y'all are all about!!"  They cracked up. 


Yeah, I was single until age 32 & the comments get OLD..... then, in TX, immediately after you marry, "when you gonna have kids?"  Kill. Me. Now.

Krist... Kristin_Allen

You forgot "Don't you want kids some day? You'd better hurry up."

sunfl... sunflower3129

My brother(the youngest) got married today....and I heard every single one on this list!!! LOL!!

Emily Alane Stromberg Baker

Did I miss something here? Is there something fundamentally wrong with being single?

Manth Manth

I heard a lot of these when I was single, too.  Then it really did happen to me when I least expected it - someone I had been friends with for YEARS without getting romantic with him got a job that meant he had to move away.  And I missed him so much.  So we started writing letters to one another and talking on the phone and suddenly without our even having to think about it we were a Couple.  Just a long-distance couple.  And we visited back and forth and had fun together and it all happened for us.


We've been married for 20 years now and have two great kids in their teens.  Never looked back and I'm, glad I waited to find him.  Even if he was Right There all along!

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