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"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
There are times quickies are absolutely necessary, but there are also times they are completely overdone. Such is the case for 28-year-old Marci* who is fessing up that her love life is way too short for her to really enjoy. This mom of one loves her husband, who she affectionately refers to as two-pump Pete* but needs a little more time to get some satisfaction. Let's hear what else she has to say.
Pete has never been an hours-long kind of lover. It's never bothered me before in all the years we've been together -- six but who's counting. But lately it's wham bam thank you ma'am -- it's over before I feel we even get started. And it's starting to upset me. It's like there is no intimacy whatsoever. We have sex, yes, but we aren't really making love. We are making quickies that are far too quick for me.
I tried talking to him about it and he feels bad about it, which in turn makes me feel bad that I made him feel bad. So I've asked if we could just have some more foreplay before we get into the sex part so it lasts longer. That worked a few times, but he seems to have forgotten that I would like him to ... you know ... go down on me so I get some pleasure and it's not all about me pleasing him.
The more I talk about it with him the more I feel like I'm whining. I really just want about 10 minutes added to our sex life. And I'm running out of ways to ask for it.
What do you think this confessor should do? How would you talk to your husband in this situation?
*Names have been changed.
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