If you've ever wondered why a seemingly normal guy whom you're just beginning to get to know suddenly sends you a picture of his penis, perhaps here's the answer: Guys apparently read books on how to score with women that encourage them to act like rapists. Listen to this bit from Ken Hoinsky's as-yet-to-be-published guide to bagging a babe called Above the Game: A guide to getting awesome with women:
Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don't ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances. Make her push your hand away as you get closer to her vagina. Pull out your c**k and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don't ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your d**k.
Yeah, because if this behavior doesn't get you a date it will surely get you a restraining order.
It's unclear where Hoinsky got his accreditation in "getting awesome with women" -- maybe prison? But just in case a woman doesn't take kindly to these instructions to molest her, he advises:
If at any point a girl wants you to stop, she will let you know. If she says 'STOP,' or 'GET AWAY FROM ME,' or shoves you away, you know she is not interested. It happens. If a woman isn't comfortable, take a break and try again later.
Yes, dudes, take a break and try again later -- by that time, hopefully the cops have arrived and can catch you in the act.
Ugh, is this really what guys are reading?? Is this what they take as serious advice on how to court a woman? No wonder we've got such a rape culture. No means yes? A slap means try again later?!
Unfortunately, there are some guys who take this stuff seriously. Some years ago, when I was single, I was at an event and a guy began chatting me but then quickly turned stony and icy and turned away from me. Figuring he wasn't interested, I tried to leave, but then he began talking to me again. However, within minutes he again turned cold and stand-offish. I finally asked him what his problem was. "Oh," he told me, "That's what this book I'm reading tells me to do. Act like you don't like a girl if you do. Is it working?"
Needless to say, I got the hell out of there.
Guys, this is really not the way to go. Forcing a woman to put her hand on your junk will land you not only a slap but a kick and a punch and a call to the cops. Pick better reading material.
What do you think of his advice?
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