Overweight Girl Dating Thin Guy Says She’s the Victim of Constant Cruel Attacks

Let's face it, we all occasionally judge couples we see on the street. Things quickly pop into your brain, like a running narrative. Oh, they're cute. Eck, get a room! I can't believe she's with him. I can't believe he's with her. You get the point. But most of us keeps our traps shut about it. But that isn't the case with Gloria Shuri Nava, who has been dating a hot Scottish guy for almost two years. The problem? Gloria is overweight. Her boyfriend is not. And people just can't seem to believe that he would want to be with her unless he had some nefarious purpose in mind.

In an essay for Yahoo!, Gloria writes that wherever the pair go, "people give us confused looks that say, 'He can do better than her!'" Gloria might be a bit paranoid. However, she says that people do more than just stare. They also say things like, "Is he blind?"; "He's only with you to get a green card"; and "It's great he can see past your looks." Seriously, where does Gloria live? Rudeville?!

Then there are the people who leave cruel comments on Gloria's YouTube channel, saying things like, "These two had sex?! Oh god, why?" Horrible. But it's YouTube. Kittens get cruel comments.

Anyway, I'm sorry that Gloria has to go through all of that. I'll admit that when I see a couple that are mismatched lookwise, I sometimes wonder what attracted them to each other. If the girl isn't as attractive as the man, I'll give him more "credit" -- like he's some awesome dude for not going strictly for looks. Sometimes I'll wonder if she was better looking five years ago.

If it's a hot chick with a plain looking dude, I'll either think he has money, or I'll think, "Smart girl not going for a player!" Anyway, your momentary thoughts don't make you who you are. None of us can control our brains all the time.

Only once did I see a couple so mismatched that it boggled me. He was like a male model. She was the complete opposite. And I just couldn't shake the feeling that the poor girl was going to get hurt. I sat there chatting with them thinking, "This isn't going to last. It can't. He's too good-looking!" Shallow, yes. But at least I didn't say anything!

As for Gloria and her BF, the explanation is simple: Her boyfriend likes "big girls," as Gloria says. She writes:

I knew he was into big girls -- his exes were chubby. Some think it's weird, but it's like having a thing for blondes: It's just a preference.

And presumably he likes her personality too!

Have you ever dated someone bigger or thinner than you?

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Barbara L. Mason

I am a chubby girl and I know that there are plenty of men who find me attractive. There is a lot more to us than our weight. People are so rude and should mind their own business.

nonmember avatar Blush

Not only am I chubby and him very fit, there is also a rather large age difference. I have had people comment and girls seem to think flirting with him right in front of me is ok. I don't care because he thinks he is the luckiest man in the world and treats me like royalty. I actually think its funny, he's the one who gets mad.

Lasha... LashaTumbai

Who are these people that just HAVE to say whatever pops into their feeble heads?!?

BeccaLS BeccaLS

Most people just can't comprehend that some people don't want thin super models, some men actually like chubby girls. Just like some men like blondes, or redheads, or black women, or Indian women. And some men like all sorts of women.


I don't see why that's so difficult to understand.

LostS... LostSoul88

Good for him and her! He's great to know there is guys out there that will take his women in no matter what shape instead of expect her to look like a model.  I don't ever judge couple like "why is he with her or vise versa. I do judge when you see a either thin or chubby girl wearing clothes that is meant for a child though. 

miche... micheledo

I had a hard time believing my now husband could find me attractive. Unfortunately our society says you aren't beautiful unless you are thin. I think that is demeaning to men as much as it is to women.

nonmember avatar AmericanExpat

I get it. Most people refuse to believe I could ever be with a woman, I'm that unattractive...

nonmember avatar drive by

ANY overweight chick could go into a bar (or wherever else) and there would be at least 1 usually more than 1 guy(s) who would approach her or be interested in her.Flip the tables and take some dude who doesn't fit the mold for what women stereotypicaly want or isn't the ideal and guess what? Its more or less F-you buddy-and he's goin' home ALONE most if not ALL the time.Signed,sealed,delivered.

Bunny Lee DuChemin Wilson

THis is ridiculous. Yeah she may not be thin, but did anyone see the pic??? She's gorgeous. Not that any of it should matter though honestly.

Laura Malpartida Ricciardi

WELL IM A THIck girl my husband loved me an now we no longer together i have a bf that loves all of me everyone is diff in what they like but only thing is i dont like me way i look an upsets him cant help that yes i knw do something about it easier said then done

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