Woman Claims Marriage Made Her Fat & What She Did Is Shocking

dead rosesA woman recently made the brave decision to allow the Daily Mail to photograph her before and after losing weight. Now, the woman, Taryn Wright, isn't brave for allowing what she deems unflattering photos of herself to be sprawled all over the Internet. She's brave for telling her story of why she let herself get to the point where she was unhealthy and overweight: It was because of her marriage. Wright actually claims that being married made her obese.

So she left him. And guess what? The weight "just magically fell off" with no effort whatsoever.

You don't need a PhD in Psychology to know that Wright, who lost almost 100 pounds in one year, was in a toxic relationship. She revealed that she was eating out of sheer boredom, and would sneak chocolate and pizza whenever her husband was around. Their relationship was far from healthy, and that was manifested in her weight.

Most people I know have been in a toxic relationship at some point in their lives -- or, at the very least, one that wasn't working. But it's not as easy as it seems to just up and walk away. We're afraid of being alone. We're afraid that we're not good enough. We're afraid of change. I, personally, was with someone for a long time past the point in which we should have broken up. Resentment started to form (on both sides), and I wasn't very healthy at all. We wound up drinking a lot when we were together out of boredom, and most of the food I ate had the ingredients sugar and Yellow #5 in it. No bueno.

It wasn't until after we broke up that I realized just how unhealthy the relationship was. I started doing yoga, hanging out with people who brought me up instead of cut me down, and all around just took better care of myself. It wasn't really a conscious decision on my behalf. It kind of just happened, like Wright's weight just "fell off".

I know it isn't easy, but my advice to people in toxic relationships is to just get out. Leave. You're going to wind up breaking up eventually; there's no point in prolonging the negativity in your life. You may wind up feeling worse for a little while in the beginning, but trust me, in the long run, you'll feel a million times better. And you'll be wondering what took you so long to break things off.

Were you ever in a toxic relationship?


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LostS... LostSoul88

her relationship wasn't toxic, she just wants someone else to blame for her laziness. If you read the full story not once did it say he was a bad man. It's great she finally lost all the weight but to blame marriage and a man is sad and pathetic. I personally think she was tired of married life and wanted to be single again so she needed her marriage and blamed that for her weight gain when in fact she was the one  that choose the poor diet and lack of exercise. 

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Fortunately, I have never been in a toxic relationship. In fact, I've only ever been in one relationship; I can say with 99.99% certainty that he is the man I will marry. I'm lucky to have gotten it right on the first shot, and I wish more women could find better relationships early in their adult lives. It saddens me to know that some women are in (and can't/won't get out of) toxic relationships.

nonmember avatar Saoirse

Toxic relationships are deadly. They play on the mind, body and soul. It is true... you may tend to drink, smoke and eat out of boredom. All things you would not normally do at all. I just ended an eight year relationship that I knew was over years ago and going no where. I did not want to admit to myself that I was wrong (again) and let it go so long. I am feeling better. Betrayed, but better! Time will heal everything.

nonmember avatar Jay

My marriage is a happy one. My husband is supportive, encouraging, and makes me feel beautiful, confident, sexy, successful. He's an incredible man and a great father
But, when we got together, I moved three hours from home. As the SAHM of two under three, I go nowhere and have no adult interaction. We toe the line of poverty, so "going out," even for excursions with the kids for something as simple as a coffee aren't always in the cards. I eat out of boredom and habit. I've gained so much weight since our second child that I can scarcely stand to be in my own skin. I hide it like I'm some sort of junkie. And, as sad as it sounds, I feel powerless to stop it. My husband is a damn good man and I adore him. Whatever issues I have with my weight belong to me alone. This woman, if she was in a toxic relationship, good for her for having the balls to move on and move up. However, I think this could give women the wrong impression in so many ways. Just as we wouldn't want someone to encourage a woman into a relationship/marriage because it'll make her "feel better," we also don't want to encourage the end of every marriage either.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

@Jay -- I don't know you or your medical or emotional history, but is it possible you're suffering from depression? Maybe it's still post-partum depression? If I were you, I would definitely discuss this with my doctor.

lulou lulou

@Jay, when i worked part-time in an office soon after I had young kids, I could easily hear co-workers phone calls from their wives, knowing the at home parent just wanted to chat - with an adult - and totally remembered what they were going thru. What Id recommend is get out to free stuff, like libraries, parks, etc, and if you have a toddler, they can sometimes do a pretty good job at breaking the ice with other kids/parents, if they see the same people there over and over.


Anyway, as for the woman in the story, I dont think the relationship was toxic, as much as the own womans' attitude.  She's the kind of person I would hate to have as a coworker, who appears to think nothing is ever her fault.

nonmember avatar Jenna

I was in a toxic relationship (abusive) and I did smoke more and eat more, but not out of boredom. Probably stress. I gained weight. But I can't blame the relationship on my poor habits. I'm sorry but ultimately, what you do to your own body is no one else's fault but your own. I once blamed my ex for the weight gain and what not, but than I realized that if I blamed him for my life problems, I would be no better than him for blaming me for his constant drinking and anger issue's.

nonmember avatar Astro

In other words, "Until I find a new boyfriend, I'd better lose some weight."

nonmember avatar Jeremy Abrams

My wife and I are each able to work 30 hours, myself from home, so we are shoulder-to-shoulder in raising out two boys, now 4 and 6. I can well imagine what either one of us would feel like managing both kids without an outside outlet.

One solution - they get older. The only other solution I see mothers (not fathers, sadly) use is gabbing alot when they get together. Playdates really are essential events for moms as much as for the kiddies. To the lady who loves her husband but is gaining weight in this situation, my heart goes out to you, and all I can advise is - do something different, if what you're doing now isn't working. Check if a doctor agrees as to anti-depressants, ask your husband to handle the kids for a critical hour each day for you to exercise or just take a walk. Whatever. Keep trying. Find what works.

nonmember avatar TRO

Bet you a 100 dollars that if she gets married again she will gain in all back.

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