A woman recently made the brave decision to allow the Daily Mail to photograph her before and after losing weight. Now, the woman, Taryn Wright, isn't brave for allowing what she deems unflattering photos of herself to be sprawled all over the Internet. She's brave for telling her story of why she let herself get to the point where she was unhealthy and overweight: It was because of her marriage. Wright actually claims that being married made her obese.
So she left him. And guess what? The weight "just magically fell off" with no effort whatsoever.
You don't need a PhD in Psychology to know that Wright, who lost almost 100 pounds in one year, was in a toxic relationship. She revealed that she was eating out of sheer boredom, and would sneak chocolate and pizza whenever her husband was around. Their relationship was far from healthy, and that was manifested in her weight.
Most people I know have been in a toxic relationship at some point in their lives -- or, at the very least, one that wasn't working. But it's not as easy as it seems to just up and walk away. We're afraid of being alone. We're afraid that we're not good enough. We're afraid of change. I, personally, was with someone for a long time past the point in which we should have broken up. Resentment started to form (on both sides), and I wasn't very healthy at all. We wound up drinking a lot when we were together out of boredom, and most of the food I ate had the ingredients sugar and Yellow #5 in it. No bueno.
It wasn't until after we broke up that I realized just how unhealthy the relationship was. I started doing yoga, hanging out with people who brought me up instead of cut me down, and all around just took better care of myself. It wasn't really a conscious decision on my behalf. It kind of just happened, like Wright's weight just "fell off".
I know it isn't easy, but my advice to people in toxic relationships is to just get out. Leave. You're going to wind up breaking up eventually; there's no point in prolonging the negativity in your life. You may wind up feeling worse for a little while in the beginning, but trust me, in the long run, you'll feel a million times better. And you'll be wondering what took you so long to break things off.
Were you ever in a toxic relationship?
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