7 Things Married Couples Should Keep Doing Long After the Honeymoon Is Over

marriage All marriages inevitably go through some rough patches. It's just impossible to spend more than 50 years (God willing) with a person and never have any difficulties. But one of the most telling signs of rough waters ahead is when you start to give up things you used to love together.

Early on in dating, there is almost non-stop smooching, texting just to see how the other person is, and butterflies in the stomach. I know when my now husband and I started dating, I couldn't think about anything else but him, when I was going to see him again. Things have changed, though, 12 years later. I still adore him, but some things -- kissing, hand-holding, staying up all night talking -- have fallen by the wayside. They shouldn't, though. Here are 7 things married couples need to take from newly dating couples:

1.) Holding hands: Sometimes you should hold hands like you are in middle school. We all know you graduated to sex years ago, but remember a more innocent time when his hand around yours could make you squeal.

2.) Flirting with each other: For some reason, married couples always let this one go and they need to STOP that. Flirting is the way men and women communicate. So bat those eyelashes and brush his knee in a dark theater. Let it send a thrill up your spine.

3.) REALLY listening to his stories: We have heard each other's stories a million times and tend to get bored. Well don't. Really sit and listen to his tales. Hear about his day at work and rediscover the man you married.

4.) Trying new restaurants: The kids shouldn't stop your exploration. Visit news places, eat new foods, and go on adventures. You will be much happier.

5.) Buying little gifts/flowers: When you are dating, these things are part of the package, but they quickly fall away as you get deeper into marriage. Stop that! Make it happen again. Bring home flowers for no reason or small trinkets you saw that he might like.

6.) Dressing up: Change out of those sweatpants once a week and care about what he thinks about you again. I promise it will make many things happen all over again.

7.) Butterflies: Remember how he used to make you feel? Do your best to remember that and get that butterfly feeling again. It's just appreciation, pure and simple. Nothing feels better.

What have you stopped doing that you would like to do again?


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1Step 1Step

Great article!  It's so easy to forget the thrills of courtship after 10 or so years.  And it's important to keep those sexy feelings alive regardless of life's other plans.  One thing my husband and I have been doing for the past few years (yay Smartphones!) is texting throughout the day.   Christian Grey and Ana Steele have nothing on my husband and I ( :  We've been able to schedule a last minute "afternoon delight" a few times which is always a blast.  I feel like I've got a secret to keep the rest of the day.   It's a great way to exchange sexy thoughts and PDA's long distrance without a lot of effort.  Thanks for the article!

Crystal Gulbranson

My hubby and I have stopped do some of that stuff too. Maybe we should start doing that stuff again. It would be a lot of fun. I miss it.

Melan... Melanie_berries

My hubby and I have not been married very long, pushing a year now, but we have been together for YEARS. He can be romantic when he wants to be, and I'm very appreciative. One thing I have noticed happening, before we even said our 'i dos', is that everyday life gets in the way. We work opposite shifts to benefit our son so he does not have to spend time in childcare...and that just makes things that much harder. Sometimes I will go all week without even seeing my hubby. Thankfully, with todays technology, we are able to stay in constant contact...and yes, those 'sexy' texts and the insinuations they imply still send shivers down my spine...I do need to find a way to incorporate all the ideas given within this article cuz I sure do miss those butterflies:-( man, I love how I tend to ramble haha

Loretta Davis

Ok, so I have a question. I've got several mental illnesses that since I can't afford medication for them, make me want to not even be around my husband sometimes. How the hell am I supposed to power through that and flirt, etc???"

Loretta Davis

This isn't getting posted on my Facebook is it? I'm just logged in HERE through it? Cuz this could be disastrous otherwise....

nonmember avatar lonely

need advice here. im in tears after reading this. 4 years ago, i found my high school sweetheart. we dated 3 yrs, split, i got married, had kids....he did not. after realizing i was never over him, i left my husband and found him again. it was like we picked up right were we left off. but about a year ago, things changed. he is always preoccupied. we never hold hands. i try to do cute little things like send him sweet texts throughout the day. he text back changing the subject. at night, he is always "too tired" or has something weighing on his mind. when he gets irritated with something at work, he brings his irritation to me with such attitude. when he hurts me (emotionally), instead of trying to comfort me, he turns cold and wont even look at me. he gets upset at ME when other men look at me or hit on me, yet he seems to want nothing to do with me. i am so crazy in love with him and i'm really not sure why. i have tried leaving several times, but he makes it hard. thats when his emotion shows. he brings on the tears and begs. promises things will be different. but within a week or 2, its back to the same thing. i miss the way we use to be. i try to bring things back, but he dont seem interested. how do i gain the strength to do what i know i need to do?

nonmember avatar Sally Smith

Ummmm your 1st mistake was leaving your husband! Why would you want to hurt your children so badly through a divorce just so you can have your old flame back???? I'm not trying to hurt you but you need a reality check!!!

nonmember avatar lonely

i guess i left out some info. my husband turned into an alcoholic and became extremely abusive with me. put our children in danger by getting drunk and trying to put them in a vehicle, constantly. i would have left him regardless.

Leigh Smith

Lonely: if your man used to be caring, sweet and "into" you and now he is not. Explore medical issues. Depression is one area that is real hard for men to explore, another is low testosterone. both of these issues can cause the problems you have spoken about.

nonmember avatar L Shelton

Lonely: I am in the same boat as you other then the leaving my husband . My husband and I have been together for 8 years we had several ups and downs during dating and then I got pregnant with our daughter we were engaged but the wedding never seemed to come together I told him we didn't have to get married just because I was pregnant cause I didn't want him to feel trapped but my father told him we had to cause he didn't want him to run however now we are going onto 3 years in July and everything has died in our relationship he goes to work and then comes home goes to the bedroom and gets on his computer plays his video games while I am left with our daughter the only time he came near me was for sex and like a moron I would give in to him and now I am pregnant with our second child and he wants even more nothing to do with me I have tried to sit in the room with him and spend time with him but he tells me its weird I tell him that we should do something on his days off and he always uses the excuse we don't have the money when there is several things we can do that is free we had several things in common and now we have nothing he stopped taking interest in them I am falling into a de

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