Sex is a strange thing. It's one of the most wonderfully intimate and bonding experiences we can share with someone. And ... it can kill you. I KNOW. Such a paradox. With every person we find super attractive and want to get to know better -- especially between the sheets -- we have to also take on certain risks. And those risks can be deadly! It's crazy! Who thought up this sex thing? Really got it wrong in my opinion. Anyway. Point is, there's a new "superbug" out there in sex land and experts fear it's going to be deadlier than AIDS! Ack, bring me my chastity belt!
Two cases of the "sex superbug" have been found in Hawaii. So I know where I'm NOT going on vacation. (Ha. Little joke.) The superbug, which is an antibiotic-resistant strain of gonorrhea, has the potential to be as deadly or even deadlier than AIDS. It first surfaced in Japan a couple of years ago, but has since spread to Hawaii.
And unlike AIDS, this superbug can kill you in a matter of days. Not only that, people often don't have symptoms, so someone could pass it along to you without knowing they have it.
Besides no sex, safe sex is the best way to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, but I'm just going to be honest here. After you think you're seeing someone exclusively, the condoms usually come off. Whether it's a week, a month, six months, or a year, eventually, they come off. I don't know too many exclusive couples wearing condoms. So it's important that you get tested before they do. I don't care that you've been seeing the guy for months and he's told you everything, and blah blah blah. He may not even know he has it. YOU may not even know you have it.
I know how hard it is to be in a relationship and even consider the possibility that someone might be cheating. But that happens too. I think of a friend of mine whose husband recently gave her an STD. They had three kids and had been married over a decade. She TRUSTED him. Still ... not too many people are going to use condoms who are married.
So I say ... talk with your spouse. Make it clear, "I don't want you cheating. If I find you cheating, we're done." (Or whatever you want to say.) But then tell him about this superbug that could wipe you both out in days! Tell him condoms are a MUST if he cheats. Is that condoning cheating? I think it's just being realistic. And, hey, if you want to use them too, there's some fun condoms out there. Then you don't have to worry about it.
Honestly, it's all enough to make you want to join a monastery. But since most of us don't want to do that, take a deep breath, relax, realize the chances of you getting this if you and your partner are very careful are slim. And then put a GPS device on his shoe. Kidding! (Sorta.)
Are you scared of the superbug?
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