garden hoseHas your partner ever had a problem with premature ejaculation?

I’m not talking about every once in a while. I’m talking about most of the time.

If so, then he’s not alone.

Premature ejaculation is a common problem experienced by up to 30 percent of men at some point in their lives.

Some men might be embarrassed by their tendency to climax too early and not want to talk about it. Some may even pretend that it doesn’t happen. And if your partner’s little problem is frustrating for you, imagine how it must make him feel.

But there are some remedies that he can try, with and without you, to help prolong his erection.

1. Masturbate: Encourage him to masturbate more frequently. Reaching orgasm more often on his own can help him delay his ejaculation when he's with you.

2. Use sex toys: A cock ring can be nice to look at, but it’s also functional. The pressure it applies to the shaft of the penis helps to slow down climaxing by decreasing blood flow.

3. Change positions: Try spending time in a passive sex position, like with him on the bottom. Active positions, like doggie style, can cause more penile friction.

4. Make it less sensitive: Desensitizing creams work by numbing the penis so that the feeling of intercourse is not so intense. Be careful with this one because the numbing effect can be transferred to the vagina.

5. Stop and start: You can help your partner with this method by first sexually stimulating him until he feels he is about to climax. Then stop for 30 seconds. Repeat until he consciously wants to climax. This helps your partner learn how to control the release.

6. Delay penetration: Spend a little more time on foreplay and reach orgasm first. Oral sex is a good way to do this. Once you've had your orgasm, move on to penetration. That way, if he climaxes quickly, no one feels badly about it.

7. Wear a condom: Putting on a condom is another way to desensitize your partner’s penis. The less sensitive it feels, the longer it may take to ejaculate.

8. The squeeze-pause technique: This is also known as the penis grip. When your partner gets close to climaxing, try squeezing the penis just below the head, focusing on the urethra, which is along the under-side of the shaft. The pressure helps slow blood flow to the penis.

In some cases, working through your partner’s premature ejaculation issues is a matter of him becoming more in touch with his body -- and you helping him with that.

In addition, acknowledging the problem and talking about it can help decrease any performance anxiety he might have and make it less embarrassing. If you’ve tried some of these suggestions and it doesn’t seem to be getting better, encourage him to talk to his physician.

Have you had a partner who ejaculated prematurely? Did any of these methods work for you?


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