Sex is the great equalizer. It’s the one thing in this world that we all need and want and it doesn’t matter how much money you have, what you look like or what your profession is (unless of course you are a hooker in which case, yeah it matters because you are a professional while the rest of us are amateurs). It’s available to all of us and it’s free. Capability and pleasure go hand in hand. It’s the one thing in the world that you really want to practice. The better you understand what gets you going, the less inhibited you are to vocalize what it is that you want and that is the key to great sex. That, my friends, is how you have a great orgasm and if you are really lucky, a “wegasm”. What the hell is a that, you ask?
It’s when both partners reach orgasm simultaneously. I know it sounds greedy in a world where some women haven’t even had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm with a partner. It’s not going to happen every time and it takes a little effort, willingness and openness.
Having an orgasm is a complete loss of boundaries and inhibitions. It is pure physical pleasure. When that happens simultaneously, it is a complete breakdown of the boundaries of where you start and your partner ends. It is almost metaphysical. For that to take place a couple things need to happen first.
1. Get into the right frame of mind.
To achieve a wegasm, it is best to get the juices flowing early in the day. Get your flirt on. Let your brain get your body wet. Naughty texts sent during work hours can get the day started right. You will have your husband counting the minutes until he can come home and ravage your body. I guarantee he’ll volunteer to get the kids in bed that night.
2. Turn the phones on vibrate. Turn off the computer and TV. Light some candles. Maybe take a hot shower, together or apart, employ a favorite sexy scent or wear your hair a certain way, play a favorite song or wear something that makes you feel super sexy. The sexier you feel, the sexier you will be and the easier it will be for you to climax. When my husband showers and comes to bed wearing my favorite scent, that sends a subliminal message that it is all systems go.
3. Stay in tune.
Men can get to their hot spot in a matter of minutes because is completely physical. Lucky bastards. Women on the other hand, sexiness is all in our head. We have to feel loved and beautiful and wanted. We take a little longer to get our juices flowing. Talk about a pain in the ass. If it takes a woman 30 minutes to get to orgasm and it takes a guy 3 minutes, you see the problem. Lucky for me, my husband adheres to the ladies first always.
To get to the same place at the same time couples need to accept some basic facts, women need more foreplay and men need to slow down so while he is arousing you, keep him relaxed, which in the heat of the moment may feel like trying to rub your belly and pat your head at the same time.
Once your clitoris engorges and you are at a heightened state of excitement, gently stroke him and whisper how much you want him. When you are both ready to explode, try a position that allows for maximum wegasm potential. Doggy style is great for achieving wegasms because he can penetrate you deeply and maintain access to your clitoris for manual stimulation. Sounds fun, right?
Have you ever experienced a wegasm?
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