10 Things to Replace After Your Divorce

BedWhen I got divorced 10 years ago, I stayed in the house that my then-husband and I had bought. After everything was finalized, I slowly began making some changes at home to reflect my newly single status.

The things I tackled first were the ones that were the most intimate between my ex and me. Anything that touched his bare body? Gone. Things that reminded me of long-ago promises? Gone. (Except, of course, our children. I didn’t get rid of them. They’re wonderful, and probably my best reminder of what was good about my marriage.)

After I finally got around to making those changes, I realized I should have made them a lot sooner. Because they stopped me from looking around the house and seeing memories of my failed marriage. Instead, I looked around and was able to see my bright future.

Out of everything I replaced, these 10 were the ones that made the most impact in my day-to-day life.

1. Bedding: Replace your old bedding with some new sheets, pillows, and a comforter. While you’re at it, get a friend to help you move the furniture around. I also painted my bedroom a different color.

2. Lingerie: Get yourself some new underwear. You don’t have to replace all of it, but enough so that your underwear drawer looks different. And definitely replace the lingerie that holds a special meaning for you. Like the teddy you got at your wedding shower.

3. Jewelry: Buy a new ring, even if it’s for a different finger. I missed wearing a ring so I bought myself one at a street festival. It wasn't expensive, but it was something I liked seeing on my hand.

4. Artwork: That print of Monet’s Water Lilies you bought from the Metropolitan Museum? Donate it. And have one of your favorite photographs, like that one you took of the beautiful sunset, blown up and framed.

5. Towels: Definitely freshen up your bathroom with new towels. Because what gets closer to your naked body than a towel? Well maybe ...

6. Sex Toys: Replace your sex toys -- or at least the ones you used with your ex. You may not be ready to be intimate with a new partner and, well, we all have needs.

7. Pajamas: Throw out the old T-shirts of his that you were using as sleep shirts. Put them in your rag drawer and buy yourself something cute and matchy to sleep in. Like a tank top and soft pajama bottoms.

8. Wine glasses: Don't get rid of all the glasses you got from your bridal registry. Just buy yourself two new ones. One for you and one for whomever may share your life down the road.

9. Photographs: Those pictures of you and your ex from your wedding day, your honeymoon, and any other special occasion? Banish them. If you're not ready to put them in the garbage, just put them in a box and store them in the attic.

10. Friends: Okay, so this one's not an inanimate object, but you have to replace so-called friends who don't want to try and understand what you're going through with people who are supportive. Going through a divorce is hard. You need friends who have got your back.

What else would you replace post-divorce?

 

Image via Jennifer Cullen

divorce, emotional health, breakups, exes, love, marriage

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LadyM... LadyMinni

I don't think I would get rid of the photos. Just because it didn't end well doesn't mean it didn't happen. Of course I grew up in a house with people who never get rid of pictures for anything, so that might just be how I was raised.


I agree with the bedding and lingerie most of all. Get new ones. Splurge a little.

First... FirstTimeMama21

Yeah, I'm a firm believer in keeping photos. You may not want them, but your kids will want them for their own family memories.

nonmember avatar blue

If I were getting divorced, the actual med would be the first to go. I wouldn't want to sleep in the same bed after divorce. I certainly wouldn't want the same bed, if I were ever in another serious relationship. Weird!!!

nonmember avatar Shannon

Maybe banish the wedding photos from display but I would still keep them in the photo album on the shelf. He is your children's father and they should know they were conceived and born out of love.

Rhodin Rhodin

My passwords.

jessa... jessasmamma

THANK YOU for this! My ex-husband has literally kept everything that we got while together - sheets, bedding, towels, etc. He even kept stuff of mine that was mine before I even met him. It's weird, but it's understandable considering he's the cheapest man alive. But I know that I would be really weirded out if I found out that the sheets on my boyfriends bed were the same ones that he had with his ex-wife. Same with towels.

Vegeta Vegeta

Not understanding the artwork point. It says you bought it. Unless you married Monet himself.

tbruc... tbrucemom

I did get new bedding and a new bed (I'm the one that moved out) and sold my wedding rings and the necklace he got me as a wedding gift.  Also gave way the nightgown I got as a bridal shower gift and wore on our wedding night.  Some of the things we got as a wedding gifts I got rid of too but that was really because I didn't need them since I kept the ones that I use.  I kept the photos and put them away in a box.  I want my children to have them if they want when I'm gone.  However, I have some nice jewelry that he bought me that I kept.

nonmember avatar reallifeguru

Wow all these people must be loaded because anyone I know who's gone through a divorce doesn't have the extra cash to buy all new things because well...they're going through a DIVORCE which costs money. Sorry but the last thing I was thinking about was buying new towels even after everything was said and done.

LostS... LostSoul88

Only one I agree with is bedding 

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