"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Twenty-seven year-old Jada* has been married for five years. She has what she says is a good life -- a son who amazes her every day and husband who does well financially -- but she never wants to have sex because every time she does, her husband argues with her. Paul* is 30 and Jada says he is very romantic and loving but something changes after they have sex. He criticizes her. He makes her feel like she isn't pleases him and naturally that upsets her. I'll let Jada explain.
I'm not sure what's going on with Paul. But every time we have sex, he gets upset with me. Mad even. It's like he's incredible and loving and happy one minute and then we make love and he changes. It makes me not want to ever have sex with him again. He used to want to cuddle and talk after sex, but sometime over the last six months he finds something to critique me about. Last week he told me that I didn't seem into it enough. The week before he told me I didn't shave good enough and my hair was prickling him. The time before that he said I smelled funny.
It's all upsetting me. Makes me not want to have sex with him. But then, he seduces me and is all sweet and nice and a totally different man than he is after we have sex. It's the same thing the next day. It's so bizarre.
I have talked to him about it and he shuts down -- doesn't want to talk at all. I keep thinking it will change -- that he will stop this. But without fail something irks him after sex and it's often right after. He not only has issue with me personally, but something about the house, his job, anything. It's like he can't have pleasure without getting very grumpy about something. I'm thinking he needs therapy, but when I mentioned it he got very upset about that. It has really put a wedge between us and I'm scared it's just going to get worse if he doesn't make a change.
What advice would you give Jada? Have you ever experienced anything like this before?
*Names have been changed.
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