Newlywed Couple Can’t Have Sex Because Wife Is Allergic to Husband’s Sperm


Imagine meeting the love of your life and quickly getting married. And only then do you discover that you're not quite compatible in the sack. And I don't mean that he likes it in the morning, you like it after dinner. I mean you have sex and your vayjay feels like it's burning a hole through your kidneys. Says newlywed Clara about getting it on for the first time with her husband, Jeff:

"I had burning and swelling and redness, which was very unusual. I thought I had contracted an STD."

Clara prepped herself for an awkward conversation with hubster, but after several doctor's visits, it turned out that Jeff hadn't passed along an STD. He'd merely passed along his man juice. And that was a big problem. Because it turns out that Clara was allergic to her husband's sperm.

Clara had something called seminal plasma hypersensitivity, which is a fancy way of saying she was allergic to her husband's baby makers. Jeff told ABC News:

It was a real problem, because everything else was great. We were madly in love, but it was a real game-changer for a while.

This condition apparently isn't that uncommon. Some women break out in hives, others can experience sharp pain.

Condoms didn't seem to help. And even more oddly, Jeff began to experience allergy symptoms similar to what Clara was experiencing. Doctors were baffled by that one, but antihistamines seem to help him. No such luck for Clara.

Both Clara and Jeff say they'd never experienced anything like this with other partners before. Seems this couple managed to find the only other person in the world they were sexually allergic to. Talk about odds.

As you can surmise, all of this began to take its toll on the couple's sex life. Clara began avoiding anything that might put Jeff in the mood, which saved money on sexy lingerie, but didn't do much for their intimacy. The couple went 10 months hardly having sex. "All of a sudden, you are more like roommates," said Jeff.

Eventually the couple met with a medical expert who was able to dilute Jeff's sperm and inject it into Clara over the course of three hours in order to build up her immunity to it. Since then, sex has been much better. Clara has even initiated the nasty.

You have to wonder if there's some silver lining here, and I'd have to say there is, in a way. Most couples start off hot and heavy in the bedroom and ignore personality traits that become problematic after the honeymoon period wears off. But Jeff and Clara did the opposite. The early days of their marriage were practically sexless, so they had a lot of opportunity to get to know each other without being blinded by lust. They can get blinded NOW.

Have you ever had painful sex? What did you do about it?


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tuffy... tuffymama

That poor couple. I'm glad it was resolved. The only painful sex I've had was from too much. The honeymoon period can wear out a body! LOL.

lalab... lalaboosh

I have a friend who is allergic to wheat soy corn and Dairy. she's currently stuck living in a home that's filled with mold, causing as she says her histamine bucket to be full. this has caused her allergies to become so out of control that her boyfriend has to eat corn wheat soy and dairy free just to be able to kiss her without causing a reaction on her part. she so sensitive that at this point she can't use any form of birth control what so ever, the low levels of corn in every option have completely made it impossible for her. at this point they have to use natural family planning to have any intimacy, fortunately his semen does not cause her to react yet. obviously this is a completely different situation but it made me think of my friend. that poor couple a wonderful ever be able to conceive if they want to. please forgive my horrible punctuation and capitalization, I'm being really lazy and just using voice recognition.

Cel7777 Cel7777

I don't understand why, if the issue was a semen allergy, condoms didn't help?

ashjo85 ashjo85

Why would condoms not help?

nonmember avatar Jenny

I have fibromyalgia and I haven't been able to have sex with my husband for about a year or so tried everything we can think of tried for yrs before then all of a sudden I just couldn't do it anymore the pain is to great I feel like I let my husband down I feel worthless as a wife

nonmember avatar Same Boat

Jenny you are not worthless!!! As a "Middle Aged" male I deal with the same problems you have. Just remember Love will conquer all... If your husband loves you as much as my wife loves me you two should be able to work through it.

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