Some Women Like a 'Surprise' in Bed in the Middle of the Night

bedDo you like it when your husband starts having sex with you while you are asleep or wakes you up by touching you and initiating groggy, sleep-fueled sex? If you do, you are not alone. This is actually a fantasy many women seem to have.

Some people think it is sick. Other think it is hot. But hey, we could be talking anything sexual, right? Sexual fantasies run the gamut and they are good to talk about because finding out you are normal for liking something kinky is kind of a relief. This discussion was on the Cafe Mom forums this past week as well.

It's a good question. Many women said they want to be left alone while they sleep. Others love the idea of being awakened by sex. Like anything else it seems like the best answer is the one where every person decides for themselves.


That said, a man who does this in the middle of the night WITHOUT consent or without discussing it with his spouse could (rightfully so) be accused of rape. It's a fine line.

In marriage, though, as in sex, anything should go as long as partners both agree. I asked around and found that women are pretty divided on this. Some say it is super hot (I agree) and some say it is horrifying and ooky and they would not enjoy it.

Those in the "yes" camp seem to think it is very masculine and sexy that he was SO attracted to you that he rolled over and needed it NOW (meow!).

Meanwhile those in the "no" camp feel that it is ooky and even borderline non consensual.

Bottom line, of course: Whatever floats your boat. Personally, I am glad to see other women find this practice hot. I thought I was weird for finding it sexy. But my husband knows this. We have been together 12 years at this point. If it is OK between two consenting adults, then it seems like it should be just fine with everyone else.

Do you think this practice is hot?

 

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nonmember avatar Laura

I would have hated this while my child was young and sleep was at a premium. Now that she's 11, and private time alone is at a premium...being awakened for sex is quite possibly the sexiest thing I've ever experienced!

butte... butterflyfreak

I love when my husband wakes me up for sex in the middle of the night. That actually used to happen a lot but not so much lately since we often times end up with an intruder in our bed in the middle of the night. LOL But then, my husband and I both have high libidos and pretty much get it on whenever, wherever we can.

nonmember avatar Not.For.Me

If I get woken up, I am MAD. Like, REALLY mad. I feel bad because I hate hate HATE turning my bf down, but in the middle of the night if you wake me up I'll probably take a swing at you!

MissF... MissFrenchie

I love it! I completely agree that there's just something really hot about knowing he wants you so bad he just couldn't wait. Morning wakeup sex is my personal favorite though. Guaranteed to put me in a good mood all day long :)

nonmember avatar R

As a guy, sometimes I get so horny and hard in the middle of the night I quietly slip off my wifes panties, and go down on her. Real gently at first, until she wakes up and I hear a surprised gasp, and then a moan. then I get even more hard and have to start 'handling myself', which gets her more excited, and than it gets interesting...

linzemae linzemae

I told my husband from the beginning do not wake me up. I will be mad and grouchy!

kelti... kelticmom

I LOVE when my husband wakes me up in the middle of the night by touching me *there*! I'm usually dreaming something hot and sexy bc he has me aroused and then I wake up to the real thing. Yay me! Lol

nonmember avatar Me

My wife sometimes has sex with me while I'm asleep (and I don't wake up). I like that she wants me so much.

nonmember avatar Nonya

Great! Yet another way for men to play Russian roulette with the legal system and women's fickle emotions. No, Thanks.

nonmember avatar EvilPundit

Feminists would call this rape, even with prior agreement.

For many men, it would be too risky - considering the laws in place. If for any reason she didn't like it, his life could be destroyed.

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